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The follow through is a good point and you can definitely bring that up to her. Follow through on things discussed is important and a very fair thing to talk a out with your spouse. That’s a little different than what you were getting at in previous posts though
Ruth, you might as well call me the devil, because no matter what I say, you're going to argue that I'm wrong.
This ^^^ isn't fair. Ruth has asked some good clarifying questions, and she's right. Now you're getting defensive and throwing back at us the idea that your wife is lying to you. Your last few replies have just been petulant.
The ugly truth is that none of us who are in relationships with other people are blameless angels in the equation. We ALL have fault, a fact that you were on board with admitting at the beginning of this thread:
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I encourage her to be upfront about anything she thinks I should work on. Fair is fair.
...when "what you should work on" was on your preapproved list I guess.
Now that it is being suggested that you 1) just are not happy even though you keep claiming to be and 2) that you DO hold some of the blame for your current circumstances, you don't appear to be OK with that suggestion.
So let's cut the crap. We all know (and have known) that you have more than an academic curiosity about these topics. Do YOU get that now? It's OK. A lot of us have been there. I hope you do get it, because it is the first step toward being actually happy with your circumstances.
As for me, I tell her I have many goals:
- Getting a better position in my company or elsewhere
- Continuing to make money on my blog, and building a more robust one
- Perhaps getting a master's
- Learning to play the guitar
- Learning the piano
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Then go out and do these things.
I have a hunch that you might not be able to even attract the type of successful, ambitious female that you're looking for.
Took you a while to say this. Yes, I know you have your own dirty laundry, but I won't go there.
Wow, you are really in a bad mood today. I thought you were too smart to resort to personal attacks on people who are trying to help.
Look, I didn't even want to comment on your thread because you and I have DM'd endlessly about your situation. But I saw it derailing and thought I would try to help ... again. If you still aren't open to help, I will gladly move on to other threads.
But I saw it derailing and thought I would try to help ... again. If you still aren't open to help, I will gladly move on to other threads.
Sometimes that "help" comes across as reprimanding.
I accept constructive criticism, but at times I feel like I'm being bashed more than anything else. Look at what PriscillaVanilla said above for a good example.
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