Just got dumped by my girlfriend. Need advice please (long distance, guys, love)
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I was just dumped by my girlfriend and i'm currently really confused. I think the main reason why she broke up with me was cause i acted really clingy, super needy and annoyed her during the last week when she went to another city to meet her friends and have a good time. She was already acting quite cold the week before so i panicked a bit and kept messaging, calling her a lot during the days she was away. I could see that she was annoyed with that but i just wanted to understand what was wrong. I could clearly smell that something is not right and had a feeling that she is thinking about breaking up with me. I know it was a big mistake on my part not giving her space during that week. So when she came back, she told me that she needs couple days of space to decide whether she wants to be with me anymore. I've just called her today, and hung up on me, then we chatted a little bit and it turned out that she decided to break up.
But my main concern is, what she wrote me was:
"I don't know if i'm doing the right thing. I hope i'm not making a mistake.
I'm not quite sure what that means.. Do you think she still has some feelings for me? She's acting really cold though and doesn't seem to be interested in me anymore. However, he's still checking every single thing i put on instagram/facebook. We been together for 6 months and it seemed that we really loved each. She even cried in front of me at least 3 times, she used to be really comfortable next to me. It was a long distance relationship though. We used to meet twice a week. It's just hard to believe for me that like 10 days ago she said she really loved me and now she decided to break up with me after i was really clingy, needy the week she was away.
What is your opinion? Mainly about that thing she said to me today: ""I don't know if i'm doing the right thing. I hope i'm not making a mistake.".
Do you think i still got a chance to get her back?
I think her comment meant that she knows you are a good guy and good guys aren't on every corner so ending something with a nice guy is tougher than ending it with an ahole. Mistake as in = not sure if I find another good guy any time soon.
Does that make any sense? I know it is tough to hold back if you love someone but sometimes showing too much affection can be suffocating and gets annoying.
It sounds to me like she is toying with you, or you have omitted something from the story. Maybe she likes drama, and she is checking to see if she has created any.
I would stay silent. This is her thing. See how it plays out. Maybe you are getting off easy this way?
The thing is i still love her a lot. I will be doing the no contact thing from now on. I've just thanked her for the good times, said i love her a lot and that i'm leaving the door open, she can call my anytime if she changes her mind. Do you think it was appropriate to say?
Don't worry about it. Sure, you will need to get over it in time. Now go out and have some fun. If she wants to return, she will. If she doesn't, okay. Next!
The thing is i still love her a lot. I will be doing the no contact thing from now on. I've just thanked her for the good times, said i love her a lot and that i'm leaving the door open, she can call my anytime if she changes her mind. Do you think it was appropriate to say?
That doesnt matter now, it is water under the brigde.
I agree to block her number and do not look at her social media stuff.
My gut feeling is that she met someone else. She got colder and colder toward you, because it's really hard for the average human to have a relationship with 2 people at the same time, and act like everything is hunky dory with both parties.
She's trying to leave the door open, because she knows it might not pan out with the new person, and wants to jump back to you if she can.
If it were me, I wouldn't give her a second chance. She made her choice, and she can live by her choice. Let her live with her regrets, if she ends up having any.
Deep thinking ( too much thinking/trying to figure her out) should be kept for prayer ,family and work.
She is neither.
You know you have found the right one when she can finish the sentence you have started.
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved.
Time to move on..................
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