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I'm reminded of how, when I started dating and went online, I didn't really know what I was looking for, but I kinda thought I did. I put a bunch of factors on my profile. And then once I got out in the world and started meeting human beings, it all went right out the window.
My factors, in retrospect, were silly.
There is a vast difference between viewing the pursuit of love through a screen, and viewing it through experience in the wild.
On a screen, I could evaluate people in the manner in which it's talked about here, usually by men, and usually by unsuccessful men at that. "Options, factors A, B and C." Data in a list. In real life, there is this nebulous and abstract "chemistry" stuff that blows the data right out of the water. I easily passed on a guy who was good looking, about my age, and makes tons of money (and was generous to me with it) in favor of an old dude, not attractive in the conventional "good looking" way that most women might appreciate (and if I'd not gotten to know him, he wouldn't have turned my head) and makes enough to live frugally and have savings but not a lot, not as much as I make, and not enough for wild extravagance like that other guy. Differences though...far more compatibility in our personalities, less stress, better communication, more "chemistry." A lot of woo woo almost spiritual junk that is hard to quantify.
So while a man might make an effort and should, insofar as squaring away aspects of his life that form deal-breakers to women, in order to "compete" against her other "suitors"...ultimately you just have to break the floor of acceptability...after that, you're best off meeting as many women as you can, until one feels sparky for ya.
Years ago, I saw beautiful women visiting their husband or boyfriend in prison. Those guys don't make much. They make around 10-15 cents an hour. Yes, that is CENT an hour. If they can have a woman by their side, anyone can.
Years ago, I saw beautiful women visiting their husband or boyfriend in prison. Those guys don't make much. They make around 10-15 cents an hour. Yes, that is CENT an hour. If they can have a woman by their side, anyone can.
Years ago, I saw beautiful women visiting their husband or boyfriend in prison. Those guys don't make much. They make around 10-15 cents an hour. Yes, that is CENT an hour. If they can have a woman by their side, anyone can.
Hey! rent is cheap and food is paid for.
Seriously though..
Just because a person is in prison earning 10-15 cents/hour, doesn't mean they don't have a job (skills) and money waiting for them outside.
So you are equating "great" with beautiful? Hmmm....
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The answer is yes but I think it would be hard. I think today with social media and more, women are more selective and won't just settle even for your average good looking guy with a good personality. Unless you get lucky and find a beautiful girl with a good personality who isn't materialistic.
I think a lot of women would be happy with "your average good looking guy" with a good personality.
The problem comes in if the guy doesn't make enough to support himself comfortably - is that what you're talking about?
You're an average looking guy who doesn't expect to make enough money to live comfortably, and you're looking for an attractive woman with a great personality who is either willing to live on very small means, or is willing to support you?
OP- Have you ever met a great girl? If she wouldn't give you the time of day because of how much money you earned (only) then she's not so "great'.
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