Have you ever been in a FWB relationship? (loving, sex, call)
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Why care how/if it ends? Most relationships do. It's about enjoying it while it lasts - which has always been my experience (and all of mine ended amicably, too).
Why care how/if it ends? Most relationships do. It's about enjoying it while it lasts - which has always been my experience (and all of mine ended amicably, too).
For you. Not everyone is as fortunate as you were. If I'm with a woman it's either a full fledged relationship or nothing at all, not into hooking up.
Why care how/if it ends? Most relationships do. It's about enjoying it while it lasts - which has always been my experience (and all of mine ended amicably, too).
This is very biased though.
If things end well, it's easier to say cherish it in the moment. If most of a person's experience was negative or ended badly, it's more than understandable for them to feel that way. Not everyone's experience with it is going to be all kittens and rainbows.
... which makes it much easier to say "enjoy it while it lasts."
Not everyone has this experience.
And not everyone has a good experience with dating or monogamy, either. What's your point? If you don't go in with the hope that you'll get something worthwhile out of it, then don't get involved at all, in any relationship.
If things end well, it's easier to say cherish it in the moment. If most of a person's experience was negative or ended badly, it's more than understandable for them to feel that way. Not everyone's experience with it is going to be all kittens and rainbows.
Of course. BUT, how often have you dated and not have it be all kittens and rainbows? Have you never experienced a breakup? Some are good, some are bad. Does that stop you from having any relationships?
Sure, things can go wrong, or you may not get what you want from FWB. You also don't always get what you want from romantically-intended dating, or marriage. There really is NO difference in potential outcomes.
Of course. BUT, how often have you dated and not have it be all kittens and rainbows? Have you never experienced a breakup? Some are good, some are bad. Does that stop you from having any relationships?
Sure, things can go wrong, or you may not get what you want from FWB. You also don't always get what you want from romantically-intended dating, or marriage. There really is NO difference in potential outcomes.
I agree there are no guarantees with either, however not enjoying or not wanting to get involved in an FWB situation doesn't always have to do with not being able to live in the moment. Some people just aren't comfortable with that nor are they wired for that. So them saying it never ends well, could mainly come from the fact that it conflicts with their emotional make up. If you enjoy it or have no issue with it, that's cool. Some think it's a waste for them. And that's okay. Some people can walk away knowing they followed the path they wanted to take when conducting their relationships. Neither is superior to the other.
are glib and dismissive and typical of a person that has not actually dealt with a breakup in a long while.
Which is of course a good thing for you but not the most realistic and helpful vantage point from which to dispense advice.
I disagree. I just haven't had a bad breakup since I was a teenager, because I learned relationship skills. But, that's still not relevant.
Unless you've only ever had one relationship, and are still in that relationship, you've had one or more relationships that have ended. Have any ended well, or amicably? Have any ended badly, with emotional distress? (Perhaps because your partner dumped you, or would not commit in the way you wanted?)
The vast majority of relationships end, and probably more than half end badly. Why single out FWB for special contempt? Let's instead single out marriage for contempt - that would make as much sense as your attitude, IMO.
I disagree. I just haven't had a bad breakup since I was a teenager...
OH, I thought you said ALL of your relationships ended amicably.
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because I learned relationship skills. But, that's still not relevant.
You don't think so? Even FWB are not effortless.
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Unless you've only ever had one relationship, and are still in that relationship, you've had one or more relationships that have ended. Have any ended well, or amicably? Have any ended badly, with emotional distress? (Perhaps because your partner dumped you, or would not commit in the way you wanted?)
The vast majority of relationships end, and probably more than half end badly.
... except for yours ...
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Why single out FWB for special contempt? Let's instead single out marriage for contempt - that would make as much sense as your attitude, IMO.
You may be confusing me with another poster, since I haven't singled out any type of relationship for contempt. I have contempt for BS and hubris, both of which I've been picking up on heavily in this thread.
Also, the OP is a woman FWIW.
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