Do You Still Hold Hands? (couple, different, relation, accept)
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Of course a big hug means I have to put my coffee cup down
That's when you know it's love.
The idea that holding hands = ownership or possessiveness is just sad. It's the complete opposite of that. Holding hands is a mutual act. It's an unspoken communication. It's beautiful and very comforting, and can be simple and profound at the same time.
If you're a stranger and you're sitting next to me while the band finally pulls out a song we've waited for all night as the first encore, by all means high five me.
If I know you well enough to go to the cinema with you and you reach for my hand during a scary or tense bit, I will recoil as if I've been bitten.
The idea that holding hands = ownership or possessiveness is just sad. It's the complete opposite of that. Holding hands is a mutual act. It's an unspoken communication. It's beautiful and very comforting, and can be simple and profound at the same time.
This is a thing I've pondered for years, now and again.
Once when I was a know-it-all teen, struggling hard and basically showing my arse a lot in the monumental effort to prove I both mattered and was far more worldy-wise than I actually was, I sat in my room trying to "scientifically and logically" diminish the act of kissing. How's that for arrogant youth?
"Why, kissing," I told myself haughtily, "is nothing more than the pressing together of mandibular protuberances." My social awkwardness and distinctive shyness in the presence of the opposite sex had been taking a toll and, lacking a serious experience-based foundation, I was fumbling about quite desperately. "Kissing is essentially meaningless, indeed." Harrumph.
"Kissing," I said to the empty room -- and if I recall I may have actually held a finger aloft in profound and declarative manner -- "amounts to as little as touching flesh, as meaningless as, say... pressing two hands together!"
To my credit, I erupted with laughter at my own foolishness, instantly realizing that we humans do, in point of fact, find great pleasure in holding hands, sharing vast levels of unspoken communication instantaneously, conveying union, bonding, and powerful depths of shared outlook, security, and belonging.
It was then I realized I was in fact lonely, and denying it was a waste of time. It would have to be dealt with.
I think one of the greatest gifts the Universe (capitalized in that spiritual sense) has given me over the years is the ability to put together pieces of the grand puzzle and to use those to see my own occasionally ridiculous nature and intellectually foppish preening and posturing in order to laugh at myself.
It was then I realized I was in fact lonely, and denying it was a waste of time. It would have to be dealt with.
I'll cop to that, but the consequences of dealing with it seem far greater than accepting and learning to live with it. The hermit, the bookworm, and the solitary cinemagoer attempting to redefine his place in the world by what you strange folk call 'putting myself out there' and 'approaching'? Inconceivable!
I'll cop to that, but the consequences of dealing with it seem far greater than accepting and learning to live with it. The hermit, the bookworm, and the solitary cinemagoer attempting to redefine his place in the world by what you strange folk call 'putting myself out there' and 'approaching'? Inconceivable!
I find it curious that you draw a differentiation between dealing with it and accepting and learning to live with it.
Not that they must be the same, but why was your immediate conclusion that they were exclusive?
I suspect that's worth thinking about for a moment.
"Why, kissing," I told myself haughtily, "is nothing more than the pressing together of mandibular protuberances."
My goodness...as a teen I was more concerned with acne
Last edited by Inspector1489; 11-21-2017 at 03:20 PM..
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