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However the reasonings behind someone doing this may not be caused by a negative trait or some organized disingenuous ideology.
They could be doing these things as a means to protect themselves, To side step away from what others may need to know to if they wanted to cause harm to them.
What someone wants you to know vs what someone is is rarely one to one.
We all hide aspects of ourselves from others based on how comfortable we are with them and ourselves.
Is she REALLY trying to deceive anyone? Except perhaps herself?
BTW - what do you care? Seems a little sad to me but you act as though there is no way at all you can relate when no doubt you've done the same or very similar yourself.
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A lot of people do that. Most people don't want to read negative stuff in their newsfeed so they keep things positive themselves when posting. And posting drama about others or your relationship usually makes things worse, not better.
Because they don't want the whole world to know how miserable they are and would just rather live in a pretend fantasy in hopes maybe someday the lies will turn out to be the truth.
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Help me understand this.
My friend complains about her boyfriend (they have been together for 17 yrs). Says he is mean to her, told her he loves her but not "in love" with her. Both have cheated (at least I know she has at least a few times).
Yet on Facebook, she posts pictures of them smiling and having fun. She writes stuff about how to have a good relationship. If I didn't know the things she told me on the phone, I would think (per Facebook) that they are really happy and meant for each other.
She has told me more than once, that she knows they are not right for each other. She would have left him 2 yrs ago but the guy she was going to leave him for, decided he would rather be alone.
I'm not asking why does she stay (that's another post) but rather why post all this lovey dovey stuff on Facebook?
Same reason people with massive debt keep their house and new car up. Giving the appearance of success due to societal pressure.
People need to really assume that most of what people post on facebook is fake, or exaggerated. There have even been articles on this. I know people like this as well, constantly posting on how perfect and great their life is, their husband, whatever, but in real life they are miserable, can't wait to leave, cheating, whatever. It's just the way people are. I always think of someone is posting too much or too often about how wondering things are, things aren't that wonderful.
My friend complains about her boyfriend (they have been together for 17 yrs). Says he is mean to her, told her he loves her but not "in love" with her. Both have cheated (at least I know she has at least a few times).
Yet on Facebook, she posts pictures of them smiling and having fun. She writes stuff about how to have a good relationship. If I didn't know the things she told me on the phone, I would think (per Facebook) that they are really happy and meant for each other.
She has told me more than once, that she knows they are not right for each other. She would have left him 2 yrs ago but the guy she was going to leave him for, decided he would rather be alone.
I'm not asking why does she stay (that's another post) but rather why post all this lovey dovey stuff on Facebook?
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