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the majority of cancers stem from undiagnosed STDs such as burning pee or burning urniation
Being immoral usually catches up to you
You were created for a purpose, scripture says so
To deviate will have consequences
Funny you said that coz that's what his Dr. said, to get STD test, he said it's not funny at all coz that means I am cheating on him.
He said they did test him for it and it was clear so the DR. is actually clueless what's wrong with him. He just got his innards photobombed. So we'll see what the dr. sees.
My last live together girlfriend and I went into a long dry spell. That was me. She put unrealistic demands on how foreplay was to be played out. Plus a few other issues, like her ongoing interference with how I was handling my drug addict son. Point is, I shut down the sex. I simply didn't want sex with her. I never cheated on her though. I never even thought about cheating. But I did think about moving out - which I finally did.
No one is arguing that dry spells are great! dry spells should the norm!!
They are arguing that it is not a reason to cheat.
You work on the marriage, if it isn't fixable you leave. Proceed to bang all the peeps you want.
They are arguing for behaving with morals.
You can try and put the women down and say they must be frigid, but you have no basis for that, and it's passive-aggressive. Just because they disagree with you (as do I) means nothing about their sex lives.
We went through a dry spell, because my husband broke his pelvis, that was QUITE limiting, but certainly wouldn't lead to infidelity on my part.
I don't recall saying they should cheat....
Just expressing that if they continue to not have sex with their partner then they really should not be surprise if their partner starts to fill their needs in other ways.
Is it morally okay to neglect the needs of your partner?
Also again twisting or misinterpreting what I state ....I never stated their as any issues with heath or clearly obvious reasons for not have sex.
If other people have their own agents find ... but no need to reinvent what I stated.
You don't think it would devastate my girlfriend if I had sex with other women and she found out? What if she has sex with me once a week, but I decide that I want sex everyday or twice a day?
If I cheat on my girl, I have low moral character. I don't understand how you can justify it.
At least OWN it. The worst people are the ones that don't own their indiscretions. And not getting what you want every second that you want it because you can't control your infantile needs is a personal problem.
The world doesn't work like that. I know everyone wants immediate gratification, but at the end of the day, it's just a selfish emotion.
Relationship are a gift and take.
You appear to have an agreement.
I am not speaking to that.
I am speaking about people that continually brush off their partners expressed desires to have sex.
Most men I have talked to never thought hey woukd get married and still be having to masturbate whike watching porn.
When you make a sht-ton of baseless assumptions and erroneous extrapolations while completely losing sight of circumstances and dynamics that don't fit your presupposition, you're going to be met with criticism. Maybe next time you'll have better luck avoiding these fallacies.
Keep on projecting......
Rather the reflecting on why their expressed view point anger you so much.
That was not part of her narrative until just now (when she maybe realized a guy pointed out her lack of nuance in her assumptions). Her whole spiel centered around this supposed story and made assumptions based on that and framed it as "not having regular sex" vs. "if you're in a sexless marriage and act like roommates with little or no communication, sort things out or seek counseling" and nowhere until now did she say "If you're on the same page and things are still good, fine" just that there should be an expectation of regular sex in a relationship. No other considerations or context. Nevermind that "regular sex" means something different to different people.
Projection ..... vs delusion .... is there really a point to you rants?
So you stance is that no sex in a relationship is okay or is it just you are upset the topic is being discussed.
If someone has to much time to write stuff on a forum hopefully they have time to kerp the marital bed warm lol.
No Metaphysique, you're not reading my posts. I said my marriage went sexless for some six months before the end. How on earth did you get to; 6 months? That still doesn't seem like much to claim "That's a sexless marriage!! Let me look elsewhere!"
I'm not sure whether you are saying that I am characterizing relationships or marriages as "needing" frequent sex, without lulls or breaks for any reason, or else be driven to cheat, or the OP. I only described my own marriage in support of what the OP is saying. It would be quite ludicrous had anyone actually suggested that. But they didn't.
Metaphysique, I would suggest that you are coming from a place of a good, solid and stable relationship and from that perspective you are absolutely right. You said; "My husband would absolutely take notice of a change in emotional and mental intimacy and physical affection before taking "issue" with less frequent sex."
Yes, absolutely!
But I am suggesting that life's pressure and all that getting in the way of normal and frequent sex is a load of crap! You've no idea what I have been through. It doesn't interfere with sex!
I agree! My DH came home after weeks of being in the hospital (bad car accident) and having facial reconstructive surgery and he wasn't in the door 10 minutes before he was ready to get it on! Does life get in the way, sometimes but you have to find the time and make it work......otherwise your marriage will not. We've been married 16 years, together 18.
Funny you said that coz that's what his Dr. said, to get STD test, he said it's not funny at all coz that means I am cheating on him.
He said they did test him for it and it was clear so the DR. is actually clueless what's wrong with him. He just got his innards photobombed. So we'll see what the dr. sees.
That's exactly what happened to us! wow. Probably why I posted to this thread!
I was told I had an STD and my husband must've went out on me in the last 6 months. We just got married and he was a virgin. We went slow. He was no Casanova. Not to mention we owned a business together and were together pretty much 24/7. He had a wart on his hand, it was bleeding while he was touching me down there. I noticed it and said YUCK. Then boom, 10 days later it spread to that area. So gross. Visited the Doctor to learn it was an STD. Which by definition, I guess it was but Dr refused to believe my story of how I contracted it. Now they know it is posisble, say there is only one strand but it is possible.
My ex boyfriend who went out on me repeatedly so it could've been from him but Dr said no. Incubation period was 6 months and we'd been together a little over a year so it must be my husbands fault. It upset me because I felt they were spreading false information, paying too much mind to the medical textbooks.
We owned a business together and was together 24/7 anyhow so it wasn't really possible.
You know what's what...sorry that happened
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and he was a virgin. We went slow. He was no Casanova. Not to mention we owned a business together and were together pretty much 24/7. He had a wart on his hand, it was bleeding while he was touching me down there. I noticed it and said YUCK. Then boom, 10 days later it spread to that area. So gross. Visited the Doctor to learn it was an STD. Which by definition, I guess it was but Dr refused to believe my story of how I contracted it. Now they know it is posisble, say there is only one strand but it is possible. 
