I'm stuck in a Catch 22, and I have No Idea What to Do. (single, older)
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Some areas are tougher for dating than others, but I find it hard to believe all the women in one area are snobs. The problem here is clearly you, but you'll never admit it, so I suppose you'll still be here posting in 20 years about being a virgin and how all women are snotty gold diggers who won't date you despite the fact that you are super awesome and spend lots of time at the gym. :roll eyes:
Your disdain for women comes across clear as a bell in your posts, so I have no doubt how it comes across to women you encounter in real life. A 27 year old guy who is a virgin, doesn't have a full time job, no savings, and lives at home with his parents isn't exactly what most women are looking for in a boyfriend and that doesn't make them snotty or entitled or gold diggers. You can move, but you better change your attitude or it won't do a bit of good. Something about you is clearly putting women off. You would be wise to do some self reflection instead of blaming everyone around you.
As someone who grew up in the Cincy metro area, it should probably be pointed out that the town where the OP lives is outside the main I-275 belt, and is considered almost rural and "gritty", to be polite. It's not really a place where interesting 20-somethings congregate. He'd probably have better luck if he actually moved into the city or the outer-lying suburbs where professionals go. It's definitely not a problem with all the women in an entire region.
This makes a lot more sense. There's always low end places or ghettos where the area could be the problem. You can venture downtown or wherever is trendy, but it's hard to continuously drag friends there. It's just not convenient.
Since I see you have a lot of replies, it's very likely someone has already said this, but I'll post it anyway. I believe what you say about your vacation, but I'm still guessing that the problem is you, not the women. There is nothing in your post that would lead me to believe you're necessarily an "ideal match." Of course, I can't know, but maybe this is wishful thinking on your part.
Here are some thoughts:
1. Your post implies that you are trying to pick up strangers. This is not necessarily a smart strategy. On top of that, it's not a good sign that you speak of "scoring."
2. The only specific activity you mention is sports (and your gym). This is also not a good sign. Women won't necessarily list sports as a top interest, and being a "gym rat" implies to me some excessive vanity.
3. It's possible that you have a problem with your style. Maybe you're in good shape, but maybe you dress like a slob, don't bother to get a haircut, or have a poor demeanor.
4. It's possible that you have a problem with your conversational style. Of course, we can't know what you sound like, but it's possible that you either are boring in terms of subject matter, or are too busy talking about yourself. Or maybe you're too pushy, focusing on "scoring."
5. Instead of worrying about scoring, how about starting with some friends? And give some parties, with both men and women. Try something that is more likely to have women - like a book club or a cooking class.
I choose teaching because I love helping teenagers, and I like to be their role model. So far, high school students really like me, and look up to me.
It doesn't affect my classroom practices at all.
When I student taught, I taught two blocks of seniors, and one block of sophomores in high school. During the end of my term, I had to give some of the male students the harsh reality of life after high school. I mentioned it to my female students as well, but they didn't need to hear that most men were visual idiots(They already figured that out).
Some of the male students had this fantasy of how college life would be, or even life afterwards. I told them the harsh truth, and how you will be constantly judged for how much money you make, or how picky the dating world is after high school.
Dude. Inappropriate.
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I understand there's probably an issue with the OP and in my experience that's usually a social issue. Sometimes autistic, sometimes just lack of experience, or I'll say exposure.
Never the less, if is he is such and such, a ghetto place ain't no good for that. Trust me I live in the hood and I wouldn't date anyone here. Every gal I've dated was at least 6 blocks over.
I understand there's probably an issue with the OP and in my experience that's usually a social issue. Sometimes autistic, sometimes just lack of experience, or I'll say exposure.
Never the less, if is he is such and such, a ghetto place ain't no good for that. Trust me I live in the hood and I wouldn't date anyone here. Every gal I've dated was at least 6 blocks over.
I think youre right, jay!
Does place matter? of course, to a small degree. If you're living in a small town in Alaska with a population of 33 people, you're probably will have a difficult time dating. But Cincinnati and the surrounding area (population roughly over 2 million people) claiming all women there are shallow gold diggers? c'mon now! Lmao
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