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I never wanted kids so far. I mean there are times when I think I might but I never have the time for it. Basically I have a friend who has kids, and all my friends in the group, says I should date and she's perfect for me.
She even told me that she has feelings for me and always has. I admit I find her very attractive and she makes me laugh a lot and I enjoy our conversations a lot. The only thing that kept me from possibly pursuing more with her is that she has kids and is older than me by a few years, and I felt that maybe she was just at a different stage of life than me.
However, she has had feelings for me this whole time, and I really like her and think she's really attractive, and my friends keep saying I should date her and we seem like such a good match.
But what do you think? Should I perhaps be more open to the kids idea maybe then and give it a shot?
Basically I have a friend who has kids, and all my friends in the group, says I should date and she's perfect for me.
Houston, we have a problem. Are you going to listen to your friends or yourself? What do YOU want? If you think it's worth turning your life upside down not only for this woman but also her children, then go for your life. If not, get out of there faster than the Roadrunner with a bum full of dynamite.
Whenever I've done something either to please my friends or keep them quiet, it never works and creates more trouble than it's worth.
Houston, we have a problem. Are you going to listen to your friends or yourself? What do YOU want? If you think it's worth turning your life upside down not only for this woman but also her children, then go for your life. If not, get out of there faster than the Roadrunner with a bum full of dynamite.
Whenever I've done something either to please my friends or keep them quiet, it never works and creates more trouble than it's worth.
Yes but how will he know if he doesn't give it a go?
If he runs he loses her without knowing and or having had the experience. If he goes for it it could turn into a wonderful thing OR it could go south, in which case he will lose her WITH knowing and having had the experience and having had some great times along the way. To me this seems like a win win. With the possibility of some heart break. For me, I would take that risk. I learnt a long time ago to take the pain.
I meant to encourage our pal Ironpony to listen to his instincts rather than the noise his friends are making. His mates might be trying to help out or claim they want the best for him (gag!), but they could also be the type who want everyone to couple up even though it may not be a good idea.
Kids will always be #1 and the focus of her life. You have to accept that (its harder than it sounds). The original post starts with "I never wanted kids so far"
Who knows? I doubt very much whether my stepfather was looking to go out with a woman with a 5 year old son when he met my mother. They were married for 40 years and I think he did a heck of a job with the 5 year old son.
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