Girlfriend getting late night texts and good morning texts (kids, advice, affair)

[RedWings18]

Originally Posted by 49erfan916

This is the realest **** I have ever seen on this thread.

Thank you sir. People live in la la land. "You up?" Just trust that? Bahahaha k.

[RC01]

A lot of girls get those “you up” “goodnight” “good morning” messages from guys. Make no mistake, those messages are from thirsty guys looking to get some - not friends. Getting them wouldn’t concern me at all, but her responding would. It’s basically an invitation for them to continue sending them. Some girls can be too “nice” to tell guys off that send those or ignore them, and this may very well be the case. I’d just mention if you happen to see one that those types of messages make you uncomfortable. If she raises a stink about it, then I’d be pretty concerned.

[mochamajesty]

Originally Posted by RbccL

My thought? My dentist called me at 11pm to ask how I was doing. I think something strange happened after the nitrous oxide. Because of the time, and situation, I didn't continue the conversation or mention it to my SO. Am I interested in him? No. I've been in a situation where a married man kept contacting me to "leave the door open" in case I was interested, more than once.

As far as I'm concerned, who cares? Nothing happens, because I'm not interested. I don't give my SO any reason to think about it, either.

It's a different world when you simply trust your p lol lppartner.

Not even remotely the same.

Did he send you a text asking if you were awake? You up? That is classic booty call language.

[Robert&Ripley]

Originally Posted by old_cold

Your story and the timing still aren't adding up.
I call this fantasy

Bingo! He is probably in his basement having a good ole laugh.

[RbccL]

Originally Posted by mochamajesty

Not even remotely the same.

Did he send you a text asking if you were awake? You up? That is classic booty call language.

He called me at 11pm to tell me he was thinking about me and wondered how I was doing?

My point was, it doesn't matter who calls or texts, yes I've had texts insinuating more is possible, I don't act on it and wouldn't.

Maybe his SO gives him reasons not to trust her, or maybe she shouldn't be so open about the messages she receives, so he doesn't have to be concerned.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by canadiangirl_2015

He doesn't need my help, or support, to deal with a woman who may have a crush on him. He is a grown man.


I don't think accusing her and reading her email is saying he cares, it's more saying he doesn't trust her. I highly doubt he will say it in a non accusing way. And again, as adults, we should be able to handle these things. sure, I may mention it to my husband in passing if a guy was hitting on me or had a crush on me, but I wouldn't feel I had to, because it really doesn't matter. The message barely said anything. So this is a lot of drama for a message that really said nothing at all to indicate anything bad was going on. Even the late night thing, who cares, some people stay up later than others.


And how do you know he didn't want to chat? Men and woman can just chat, you know.


I am not saying people don't have affairs, they do, and in fact I have been cheated on in this past in previous relationships, maybe these people are, I have no idea, but the message alone certainly doesn't indicate that.

Your cavalier attitude about this topic doesn't sound like someone whose spouse has deceived them. It mostly sounds like reaching to prove a pedantic point.

My life experience has taught me that very few men (especially married men) actively seek out a woman to chat without ulterior motives. Part of what you're saying is true ... independent adults can't walk around every day checking in with their partners about what they're doing and saying with other people. But if she has a guy friend with whom she's close enough to DM at 11 at night, her BF would know who it is and know why they're messaging.

If the OP had a little bit of insecurity before, wondering if she hooked up with this guy, now he has a WHOLE lot more based on this message. If she cares about her BF's feelings she will respect that he's uncomfortable with this scenario and at least explain it.

It's up to each couple to decide where their personal communication and privacy boundaries are. This guy's radar is going off, and he needs to address it with his GF.

[mig1]

It is not acceptable under any circumstances for a married man (or unmarried) to text your girlfriend at any time, unless it relates to business or he is a known friend and even then there are boundries.

[TheOldPuss]

OP, I think she's found a home away from home. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck...
Follow your gut. Protect yourself. Contact a lawyer if you have any shared property.
Good luck.

[49erfan916]

Originally Posted by Robert&Ripley

Bingo! He is probably in his basement having a good ole laugh.

i don't understand why people on here are assuming that he's trolling. Is it possible? Yes, however, I don't understand how people can come up with that conclusion so damn fast. Between this assumption and other posters deciding to be so naive, this thread makes me want to SMH....and it's not because of the OP...

[old_cold]

Originally Posted by 49erfan916

i don't understand why people on here are assuming that he's trolling. Is it possible? Yes, however, I don't understand how people can come up with that conclusion so damn fast. Between this assumption and other posters deciding to be so naive, this thread makes me want to SMH....and it's not because of the OP...

I usually read pretty carefully.
When there are important inconsistencies, especially from new posters, I'm inclined to reach that conclusion.
Admittedly, it might get a bit dull around here if don't have any.