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Old 12-21-2017, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I guess I should have covered my eyes the moment the message came in, shut down the computer and forgot all about it.
It doesn't matter.

You need to ask her about it and let her know that it makes you uncomfortable. Personally I think the timing and content of the messages is suspect.
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Old 12-21-2017, 07:25 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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So are you gonna say something or....?????
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Old 12-21-2017, 07:27 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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Is it really snooping if someone leaves their communication open on your device?
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Yup... just because it's open doesn't give you permission to read it. The device might be yours but the page is not.
Puhleeze...if someone is using MY device and doesn't close their stuff down I see whatever I happen to see. I'd say they are either flaunting it in front of me and want to be caught or are subconsciously doing the same. I don't go out of my way to snoop but I won't close a blind eye to something right in front of my face either.

Of course I don't share my devices or my passwords with ANYONE.
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Old 12-21-2017, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Puhleeze...if someone is using MY device and doesn't close their stuff down I see whatever I happen to see. I'd say they are either flaunting it in front of me and want to be caught or are subconsciously doing the same. I don't go out of my way to snoop but I won't close a blind eye to something right in front of my face either.

Of course I don't share my devices or my passwords with ANYONE.
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Old 12-21-2017, 08:09 PM
 
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If you can't trust her, period, then I say no deal.

I can't worry everytime I'm w/out her if she's messin'. If you can, you can be made a fool too often. Trust me, I know. But my opinion is mine, as many think I'm over the top but suffice saying -- too many ladies out there that are good, LOYAL (a HUGE plus for me), honest, decent, respectable & attractive, etc. for me to stay in a "bizarre love triangle" (Haha, a fav song of mine from the 80s & showing my age). LOL
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Old 12-21-2017, 08:56 PM
 
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Its over.
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Old 12-21-2017, 08:57 PM
 
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My Ex husband did this exact thing (Even on facebook) to women 'friends.' Those EXACT sort of messages. Good morning, Goodnight, etc. Later I discovered that every one of the 'friendly friends' was someone he had been flirting with, and not just online. Most of them he had stayed over or taken out on dates. Notice, he is my ex now.

No good can come from that. There's no reason for anyone in a relationship, male or female, to be messaging someone of the opposite sex at those hours those kinds of things unless they are longtime friendships or they are 17.

I agree---on the hunt. I wouldn't trust her either.
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Old 12-21-2017, 09:07 PM
 
Location: Beverly Hills,CA
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The best way to have your questions answered is go directly to the person who you have questions for. I'm a firm believer in dealing with an issue that involves me directly with the other person involved. I don't like when people come to me talking about a problem they have with someone (especially if it's a mutual friend) .
For one thing it has nothing to do with me and second the more people that become involved end up twisting the story around and before you know it's become a huge problem and chances are feelings are going to be hurt.
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Old 12-21-2017, 09:24 PM
 
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He’s an older doctor and saying good night and good morning to your gf?

She doing something sketchy with him or trying to monkey branch. You shouldn’t of needed to make this thread. Call her out on it and see her reaction then go from there. I wouldn’t aware his wife, just keep it between you two. No sense in making everyone’s life a mess.

There’s plenty of awesome women out there, don’t settle for someone who thinks they need a back burner.
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Old 12-21-2017, 09:36 PM
 
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And forget anyone who gives you a hard time for looking at the car wreck happening right in front of your face. Likely they are cheaters who think that confirming valid suspicions is worse than actually cheating...
Well put...here she is getting late night & early messages from a guy & messaged him back at her boyfriends place on his computer, it's open and he sees the messages. This Sydney guy wants to chime in to try to make OP look like a horrible guy as a Snoop.....You hit the nail on the head, sources say, if you snoop on "someone like Sydney" you'll be sorry you did as it'll probably contain Trash TV kind of material.
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