Girlfriend getting late night texts and good morning texts (girl, husband, 2015)

[behindthescreen]

Originally Posted by montana23

My girlfriend owns her own massage business. Apparently she went to his house I believe while his wife was there and gave him a treatment. That still doesn’t explain the 11:04 pm message from a married man.

Sounds like some happy endings going on over there

[Smiles721]

Originally Posted by montana23

The married man is a prominent doctor in the town we live in. My girlfriend owns her own massage business. Apparently she went to his house I believe while his wife was there and gave him a treatment. That still doesn’t explain the 11:04 pm message from a married man.

you think the wife was there?? hmmm that doesn't sound so good

[wowowee]

Originally Posted by behindthescreen

Sounds like some happy endings going on over there

LOL. I don't know, I am a woman but if I'm a guy, I don't think I will be comfortable dating a massage therapist. This kind of work is... fishy.

I can't believe how clueless she was though about not logging out, at the very least. LOL.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by Sydney123

Yup... just because it's open doesn't give you permission to read it. The device might be yours but the page is not.

It isn't snooping, though. It was effectively left out. No snooping required.

[rego00123]

It’s incredibly suspicious even attempting to give a benifit of doubt

If this was my spouse I would directly ask them what was going on that was so important it required wake up calls and messaging between bathroom breaks

People put their attention to things they want to keep surrounded with. No amount of hoop jumping to justify why things are changes this.

[RedWings18]

lol I love how immediately these threads derail into a snooping argument. Bunch of peeps been caught before lmao.

OP it's weird. Trust is key to healthy relationships but this is a big red flag. Most people do not text good morning and late night "you ups" to people they aren't emotionally or sexually invested in. Especially married men.

See the problem with trust and the discussion of it is that it's fragile, no matter how hard any poster here will anecdotally tell you how strong their super special relationship is. It can erode slowly over time or in an instant. Blind trust is for simps who like getting played like a fool. Trust but verify. In a committed relationship, there aren't red flags and to just ignore them with rose colored glasses cause you should just trust is idiotic.

Take a step back, breath, and assess your girlfriends behavior. I wouldn't ask her about it because if anything did happen or is happening she will hide / erase it doubly so. Cheaters who don't want to lose their current relationship won't admit to anything without being caught dead to rights. The answer will be exactly the same in either case. So "just ask" is really silly advice. Just be a little more vigilant and see if you notice any more red flags.

[Mikala43]

It's definitely not behavior I would be comfortable with if my husband was doing it. I have no problem with masseuses, but having your clients contacting you to essentially chat doesn't seem appropriate either. I would think a masseuse would want NO contact outside of work, as clients can get the wrong idea, and now you combing "we are just good friends who chat" with "I'm just going over to give him a massage" and that seems like an unwise combination and very unprofessional.

[Creature of the Wheel]

Originally Posted by montana23

Thought???

You need to give Maury Povich a call and have her take a lie detector test! If that show is too classy, you might want to try the Steve Wilkos Show.

[canadiangirl_2015]

Originally Posted by montana23

Forgot to add that she sent the response to him the same time I was in the bedroom with her and she didn’t mention it. Strange and sneaky in my opinion.

Why is this sneaky? Does she have to mention every time she talks to someone? My husband and I text, email other people all the time, even women/men, I never would think to ask him who he is talking to, even late or in the morning.


If you don't trust her, why are you there? But if you really think that people should tell their partners every time they send a message to someone else, that is a bit strange.

[Jobster]

Originally Posted by Sydney123

In almost every thread like this... seems as it's always discovered by "accident" while innocently going about their business. lol

And what?

What do you have to hide?

You get me?