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Old 12-21-2017, 03:17 PM
 
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A few nights ago my girlfriend logged onto her facebook page on my computer while I was in the shower. When I came out into the living room she had shut down her page but didn't log out. I know this because the next morning when I went to log in to my facebook page her facebook page came up instead. At precisely the time I was on her page a instant message came through from a guy with multiple pictures. Nothing obscene just pictures. I was curious as there was one other conversation going on in addition to this guy.

The other conversation was a guy who instant messaged her at 11:04pm the night before saying, "you awake". She wasn't awake because she was sleeping next to me but she responded the next morning at 8:30am saying, "I go to bed at 10:00". His response came 1 minute later saying, "wake up greeting" and she responded, "good rainy morning". Now that certainly doesn't sound too sexual but I'm wondering if they may have hooked up while I was away for 6 days. The guy is married and has been for 27 years so why is he texting my girlfriend at 11:00 at night and first thing in the morning. My first thought is something is going on. My second thought is to send the string to his wife and say, "tell your husband to stop texting my girlfriend. Thought???
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:20 PM
 
Location: Greater LA area
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ask her and see how she reacts?
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:21 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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You have a variety of options. You could respond to him directly (if her FB page is ever accessible to you again), and say, "Stop messaging my gf, or I'll forward your messages to your wife". That's the main option that comes to mind.
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:23 PM
 
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The conversation is not important, what matters is that you don't trust your gf. Without trust, there is nothing....
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:28 PM
 
Location: USA
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The conversation is not important, what matters is that you don't trust your gf. Without trust, there is nothing....

^^^^^This. If this guy has been married for 27 years he is much older than you guys, right? How do you know his story, do you know him? Trust is everything, but sometimes women just want attention from multiple men due to whatever insecurities they have, partner (boyfriend, husband) be damned.
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:28 PM
 
Location: Greater LA area
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A few nights ago my girlfriend logged onto her facebook page on my computer while I was in the shower. When I came out into the living room she had shut down her page but didn't log out. I know this because the next morning when I went to log in to my facebook page her facebook page came up instead. At precisely the time I was on her page a instant message came through from a guy with multiple pictures. Nothing obscene just pictures. I was curious as there was one other conversation going on in addition to this guy.

The other conversation was a guy who instant messaged her at 11:04pm the night before saying, "you awake". She wasn't awake because she was sleeping next to me but she responded the next morning at 8:30am saying, "I go to bed at 10:00". His response came 1 minute later saying, "wake up greeting" and she responded, "good rainy morning". Now that certainly doesn't sound too sexual but I'm wondering if they may have hooked up while I was away for 6 days. The guy is married and has been for 27 years so why is he texting my girlfriend at 11:00 at night and first thing in the morning. My first thought is something is going on. My second thought is to send the string to his wife and say, "tell your husband to stop texting my girlfriend. Thought???
Neither of those sound like she had sex with them. And her answers don't sound very romantic or encouraging either. But it could of course be the beginning of them hitting on her.


I would say most of the time if a guy texts a girl early in the morning, he wants SOMETHING. Whatever that is. And if he is just a friend - how come you don't know that?
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:37 PM
 
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I say confront her and see what the deal is. No married man should be texting any other woman late at night. He's probably interested in getting some affection from your gf.
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:42 PM
 
Location: NW San Antonio
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Late night early morning texts, FB messages. Bad signs, red flags. unless she has some reason to connect with this person/s then she is on the make. She is allowing them, probably instigating it too. Talk it out now, or get ready to break up. If she has or needs someone else, male, to discuss things with, then she don't need you.
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Old 12-21-2017, 03:52 PM
 
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Forgot to add that she sent the response to him the same time I was in the bedroom with her and she didn’t mention it. Strange and sneaky in my opinion.
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Old 12-21-2017, 04:03 PM
 
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People are people. If your gf is texting guys there's a reason for it, if these guys are texting her there's definitely a reason for it. They're on the hunt.

Go with your instincts on this one and if you see red just walk away.
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