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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Keeping the engine running isn't how it's done. Maybe for the first date, getting out of the car and escorting her to the door would make a good impression, but once people know each other better, women are usually ok with a more informal goodbye. Watching her from the car until she gets in the door safely is a common practice.
Plus with the polar vortex rhat is on the East Coast (7 degree low for DC Sat Night) hopefully women are more modern and forgiving when it comes to this.
I do it only out of paranoia. The world is truly unsafe for women and children under certain circumstances. I think of all the stories of friends leaving the drunk buddy at the bar alone to fend for herself, the mom who let the kids off at the bus stop. Bad things happen.
Okay, but....women do go out and about without an escort, you know. And I'm guessing that statistically, a woman is far more likely to be harmed by someone she knows than a random stranger. Just saying.
Class and Respect never go outta style. If you don't have them, that's on you. You get treated like you treat people. If you're cynical, people respond with cynicism to you. Respect, treat with class and dignity, it's reciprocated. I don't lower my standards because of weather, or other's ideas. I respect myself, therefore, I will act with dignity and class, respecting all women, no matter what the case may be.
A woman won't know who is who for some time, so understandably, they may be cautious.
All I'm pointing out is that different people can have different perceptions of these actions, and therefore, the is no ONE correct rule to follow.
Sure, and dating is a process in which you get to know each other. What better time to show a person that you are considerate and capable of restraint than on her doorstep?
To me, if you're into chivalry it's better to show her who you are than to leave her wondering because you sat in the car doing nothing, afraid of being ... what? Accused? Misconstrued?
To answer the OP's question, he already KNOWS she values those characteristics. If he can comply, great. If it's totally against his principles, it's better that he knows that now.
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still got a long way to go to get to anything resembling happY. But at least I'm not lying to myself. 
