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I hope it's going in a good direction because we went out today (Saturday evening and he asked me out during the week) and before leaving he said that he wants to meet next week and if needed he'll fix his schedule so that there's time for us to meet I noticed something when we were talking and I don't know if it meant anything but he was touching his ear and pulling on it quite a lot and he was also 'fixing' his shirt, mainly sleeves, a lot. Could it mean that he was not comfortable talking with me?
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I hope it's going in a good direction because we went out today (Saturday evening and he asked me out during the week) and before leaving he said that he wants to meet next week and if needed he'll fix his schedule so that there's time for us to meet I noticed something when we were talking and I don't know if it meant anything but he was touching his ear and pulling on it quite a lot and he was also 'fixing' his shirt, mainly sleeves, a lot. Could it mean that he was not comfortable talking with me?
I kind of do the same thing. The physical gestures are his method of calming his anxiety because being around a woman in a dating sense can be tough for someone who has walls up already and anxiety.
I hope it's going in a good direction because we went out today (Saturday evening and he asked me out during the week) and before leaving he said that he wants to meet next week and if needed he'll fix his schedule so that there's time for us to meet I noticed something when we were talking and I don't know if it meant anything but he was touching his ear and pulling on it quite a lot and he was also 'fixing' his shirt, mainly sleeves, a lot. Could it mean that he was not comfortable talking with me?
Did you guys kiss good night or anything?
Did he say anything specifically about you or the two of you - he really likes being with you, you look pretty tonight, he can't wait to see you again?
Did he say anything specifically about you or the two of you - he really likes being with you, you look pretty tonight, he can't wait to see you again?
We didn't kiss, but the rest he said. I don't know if he wanted to kiss me or not but when he walked me back to my car he stood there with me for about half an hour even though I said twice that I should go already and when I made a move to actually go, he kept talking and was generally 'moving around' a lot. I mean I rather stood in one place, and he kept moving from one side to the other. I remember that when I turned my back to him for a moment to show sth to him and I turned back to him he moved much closer to me (he was standing right behind me). We've talked a bit after I got back home (he wanted me to send him a message when I get home) and he mentioned our next week meeting.
We didn't kiss, but the rest he said. I don't know if he wanted to kiss me or not but when he walked me back to my car he stood there with me for about half an hour even though I said twice that I should go already and when I made a move to actually go, he kept talking and was generally 'moving around' a lot. I mean I rather stood in one place, and he kept moving from one side to the other. I remember that when I turned my back to him for a moment to show sth to him and I turned back to him he moved much closer to me (he was standing right behind me). We've talked a bit after I got back home (he wanted me to send him a message when I get home) and he mentioned our next week meeting.
Wow...can he just be really, really socially awkward?
Because I mean it seems like he really likes you, but he literally seems afraid.
I don't know of this is as much about being hurt as perhaps it is just a severe social anxiety.
He doesn't sound lukewarm at all, he is eagerly making plans...maybe he is just super, super, super shy and nervous.
We've been messaging with each other for about 3 weeks now and we've known each other for about half a year but talked only a few times. 3 weeks ago after our first (quite long) 'text conversation' he invited me to a party where I wouldn't know anyone except for him and I didn't feel too comfortable spending the night with a group of people I've never seen in my life so I rejected the invitation but I explained that if we had known each other longer I would have accepted it. He said that he understood me and asked if this means that one day I'll agree to go somewhere with him and I said yes.
When we talk with each other it usually goes for a day or a day and a half (we reply when we've got time during work and then we talk all evening after work almost without delays). We joke around a lot, tease each other, talk about some more serious things, sometimes complement each other, he asks questions like what guys I'm attracted to, sometimes jokes about how it would be if we got married or drops some sexual innuendos (nothing creepy, it just comes up naturally during the joking and is not too frequent), what my plans are, what I want my husband to be, etc. When he sees me he smiles a lot or even grins and makes a lot of eye contact which he didn't do before all that.
In one of the conversations he said that he was hurt in the previous relationships and that he's just become really careful and that one day he'll tell me about it. I have no idea how to go about all that. I don't want to pressure him and make him feel like he's bound to make huge commitments to me right now or whatever like that. I just would like to get to know him, see if he's attracted to me too and see if it could progress into anything but not necessarily over texting but I don't want to scare him away or hurt him. He's a really nice and it seems to me caring guy so I don't think that he's playing with me or whatever. Do you have any advice?
I’m sorry your post and thread title are a contradiction. Who’s trusting who? I suggest you bring the relationship into the real work and get off the fuggin phone and text dates.
Wow...can he just be really, really socially awkward?
Because I mean it seems like he really likes you, but he literally seems afraid.
I don't know of this is as much about being hurt as perhaps it is just a severe social anxiety.
He doesn't sound lukewarm at all, he is eagerly making plans...maybe he is just super, super, super shy and nervous.
Well, I'm a shy woman as well so I probably wasn't too encouraging and sending off too many signals, etc. He did tell me that he's never been too confident around women so maybe he's not sure about how I feel about him. Plus through messages there's a lot of flirting going back and forth but in person we were much more restrained (?). And he's not really socially awkward because I've seen him interacting with others on regular basis and he's confident. Actually, I'm the same way, but around men I change completely and become shy.
I’m sorry your post and thread title are a contradiction. Who’s trusting who? I suggest you bring the relationship into the real work and get off the fuggin phone and text dates.
I've just added a post that we've actually met today and have talked about meeting next week as well.
We've been messaging with each other for about 3 weeks now and we've known each other for about half a year but talked only a few times.
You've known each other for 6 months but have only spoken 3 times and, I'm going to assume, been on 0 dates??? Forget it!! Unless he's a Chris Hemsworth look-a-like then move on.
^^^^^ One reason why people shouldn't just read and answer the opening post and not the thread.
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I noticed something when we were talking and I don't know if it meant anything but he was touching his ear and pulling on it quite a lot and he was also 'fixing' his shirt, mainly sleeves, a lot. Could it mean that he was not comfortable talking with me?
