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First off, you're not a loser. Everyone on the planet has had an awkward moment like that at some point in their lives.
However, just as a friendly piece of advice: with all the drama going on these days with sexual harassment, it may not be the best idea to get involved with someone from work. It usually doesn't end well.
Ok, but talk to her about WHAT? About [bleep] weather or job or what? I have no problems talking with girls I'm not attracted to or those that are not single(many of them ar SO hot, but I have no feelings towards them, so I can just talk, make laughs and even hug, no problems, so called friend zone). But once I'm in this position, I'm braindead lunatic.
Oh, come on! You're a Russian, or a Balt. Talk to her about anything: art, literature, philosophy, music, current events. Isn't that what you people do? Come on, you folks over there are famous for that. What do you mean, "Talk to her about what?!"
Pushkin! Talk to her about Pushkin. ....ok, I'm kidding. It's a joke. Never mind
OK, here are some more ideas: ask her what her favorite restaurant is. Oh, wait, you don't go out to restaurants that much? hmm... favorite film, any film in town or a recent film. Ask her what books she reads, if any. Ask her her opinion of EU economic policies in relation to the Baltic States. Good, bad? Positive influence? Negative? Would the Baltics have been better off without EU assistance?
OR: if you're Estonian, ask her what she thinks of the relationship with Finland: good, bad, positive effect, negative?
Or, if that's too intellectual or boring, ask her what her favorite music is, her favorite band. Favorite museum in town. Are you in Riga? Ask her if she belongs to a Nicholas Roerich fan club.
That should work. lol OP, one of those ideas has got to work.
KKBB, what are your interests? Music? Movies? Gourmet food, wines, rollerblading, traveling, reading, etc? Talk to her about what you like, because that is material you're familiar with. Better yet - why not ask her what the last movie was that she saw? What kind of food she likes? That way you can ask her out for a date and you can show how much you think of her by picking a movie that fits her interests, or a restaurant that serves her favorite cuisine.
OP, you said you have no trouble talking to girls as just friends. Can you pull back and for those first couple of convos, pretend she's just a friend, too? Then let the conversation flow the way it would if the pressure were totally off.
After that ice is broken, the pressure WILL be off and you can start seeing if you can begin to develop something with her.
Keep in mind that she said “ You should talk to me more when at work”. All you need to do is initiate something (anything) and she will pick up the cue. Just keep it simple, and she will reciprocate. Use your charm. Maybe ask her to lunch?
Keep in mind that she said “ You should talk to me more when at work”. All you need to do is initiate something (anything) and she will pick up the cue. Just keep it simple, and she will reciprocate. Use your charm. Maybe ask her to lunch?
Yeah.
Keep it simple, OP.
I wouldn't go thinking up any crafty lengthy discussion topics ahead of time. It WILL come out contrived and unnatural and you'll both just be so uncomfortable. Stay simple. A smile and a hello and a "what's going on?" or "I'm grabbing a bite, care to join me?"
She invited you to talk to her. Start out slowly, don't scare her with intensity or giant artsy topics, just talk to her as if she's a friend, and go from there.
"I'm not saying no but..." = letting you down easy.
Find someone outside of work especially with all your anxieties. That could be disastrous if it didn't work out.
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Come on, you folks over there are famous for that. What do you mean, "Talk to her about what?!" 
