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[Fat Freddy]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Because last time you did it was what... 40 years ago... when life used to be normal.

That was the last time a friend turned into a wife, but I meet new friends all the time and I'll bet if the wife slot was open there would be somebody nice to fill it.

I know the world has changed, but I don't think we have to let that effect the way we relate to each other.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Fat Freddy

That was the last time a friend turned into a wife, but I meet new friends all the time and I'll bet if the wife slot was open there would be somebody nice to fill it.

I know the world has changed, but I don't think we have to let that effect the way we relate to each other.

Just count your blessings the bigger part of your life was spent in saner days.

[beowulf7]

Ahh yes, the good old days of 40 years ago. I remember them like ... OK, so I wasn't around back then.

[bxlefty23]

Originally Posted by JerZ

No clue. Again, I've seen this in real life as much as online dating. For the first 30 days, your new beau is Mr. Perfect, a Renaissance man who loooooooooooooooooooves medieval history (because you do), hiking (because you do) and Thai (because you do), has never ever been the wrong one in a relationship in his life and has never ever been able to relate to any woman as much as you, wow!

Starting about Dating Day 31 you see the boxer short scratching and "what--you don't feel like doing my laundry for the heck of it? But I brought it over just for you" stuff come out.

Not being chauvanistic--I've seen the same in reverse. Every single woman is a wonderful good time, wants to work as hard as her man, and is incredibly accepting of her new love's obsession with Lord of the Rings Online. For a couple of months.

So...why do people misrepresent? I don't know. Because they want a date. And that is exactly why, online or in real time, you have to go through a lot of dates before finding somebody who's good for you and vice versa.

ETA: Another reason, I think, is that sometimes we misrepresent ourselves to ourselves. Aren't we all "great men and women with so much to offer"? Aren't we all "so frustrated that I can't just find a normal, loving, stable person"? If we're all great and we're all normal and stable, and we're all independent and fun and great catches, then why are any of us alone? We should all be hooked up by now. The truth is that nobody is normal, and nobody is completely without baggage, and very few are 100% stellar and very few are 100% rotten and terrible. We're all just...people. I truly believe that sometimes we see the world as "I try so hard and I'm so good but there are so many bad people out there". Again, if this were true of the majority of people, empirically speaking, then that sentence itself would be self-negating. So when you find a profile from a guy that says he's salt-and-pepper but when you meet he has 10,000 white hairs and one brown one, he really does still think he's salt-and-pepper. When you meet a woman who says she has a great sense of humor and she ends up telling knock-knock jokes, she really does think she has a great sense of humor. Someone might see him or herself as "trim" at 180 because he or she used to be 300 pounds and is proud of his or her loss. It's so subjective--and I don't think 100% of the time, misrepresentations are on purpose.

I agree most people do. I dont (not talking about match but meeting women in general) Honestly its probably cost me since its so easy just to tell people they want to hear. I just got out of a 3 yr relatonship and while I did a lot of things wrong that I regret Im atleatst glad I never misrepresented myself as a person.She loved me for who I was which is a whole lot more imprtant than tricking someone for a month or 2.

[bxlefty23]

Originally Posted by Fat Freddy

I really don't understand why anyone would have to do this Internet Dating stuff to meet compatible people.

Anyone with whom I have ever had a meaningful relationship of any type or degree, I met during the conduct of my normal daily life.

We are always interacting with other humans and unless there is some major social or psychological handicap, the chances of running into compatible people are pretty good.

pretty much to meet people you otherwise wouldnt have