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You've misunderstood, or are misapplying, the 80/20 rule.
Most guys may not be approached by most women, but that's not the same as saying most men aren't approached.
It's also a reason to get over this absolute nonsense that women should be passive objects waiting for men to come and get them.
I don't believe women should be passive objects. I appreciate being approached and wish women would do so more.
And nah, I'm not misunderstanding the rule. There are plenty of men who have never been approached in a romantically inclined manner , IRL, their entire lives. I am comfortable saying the amount of women with the same experience is much lower.
I think women, like men, approach men they are interested in.
So, no, Joe Average is not going to be interesting to, nor approached by, most women. But a guy who can set himself apart a little bit, and it's not that hard, just look around at what you're trying not to be, does get women approaching him.
Operative word here.
And many women initiate contact or approach men they're actually interested in. I did so with my high school boyfriend, others I dated after we broke up, the one guy at the downtown cafe I used to frequent when I was 18 (asked for his number), my first husband, now-husband, and multiple dozens of interests and dates.
If the guy piqued my interest or curiosity, I saw no reason to wait to be contacted or approached.
So, are you still holding onto "fat chance" or is it somewhere between fat chance and frequently.
A mans chance of being approached in public by a "woman" romantically, I would say is in the rare category and not "happens frequently". Ive been engaged numerous times; more so by gay men, because men just dont care as much as woman when it comes to rejection. Blame testosterone for the reason why women really never had the need to approach.
With all the conversations and controversy in the arena of men and sexual propriety, is this the inevitable outcome? Has the proverbial pendulum swung far enough to the other side that we are now seeing a more or less organic movement towards a state where women are empowered to "make the first move" and essentially set the tone for dating and romance?
Women are already approaching men they are interested in so I don't see why not.
When a woman approaches me, I'm thinking she has an agenda and most of the time they do.
Less attractive woman approaches: needs help with something (directions, money, lifting something heavy)
More attractive woman approaches: trying to sell you something
Quite attractive woman approaches: Wants a donation for something
Very attractive woman approaches: Trying to scam you
These reasons are why I don't take a woman's approach serious at all nor I would encourage them to do it.
Why would you think that? How could someone have an agenda against you based on they way they look, especially if they don't know you.
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