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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Well since the regulars know I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of the month, I feel I should confess something. I’m always sprouting about how many rules I have for dating. Some of these include:
- no single moms
- not accepting advances from women who initiated
- no being friends with exes
I have to confess that I broke all three of those rules to date my ex. She is a single mother to an older child, she messaged me out of the blue (we were friends before) and revealed she had a huge crush on me, and after we broke up we still have a pretty good friendship after working out the bad breakup. I feel like I owe the forum an apology for sprouting about all these rules and not even following them myself. I honestly would choose to break them rules again because I had a connection with a really cool person.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m probably still going to prefer to follow these rules for future dating but I’m not going to hold an absolute hard line to them if I really like someone and look at them on a case by case basis. Sometimes when the universe sends someone cool your way you should indulge that connection even if they don’t line up perfectly with your preferred prerequisites.
Ever think that maybe the breakup occurred because you couldn't see yourself as a father to her child? You did appear to sabotage it from the very beginning, not even planning alone time with her when you visited, and basically avoiding having sex with her when there was plenty of opportunity. I think we all saw it.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
26,700 posts, read 41,742,544 times
Reputation: 41381
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Originally Posted by zentropa
Ever think that maybe the breakup occurred because you couldn't see yourself as a father to her child? You did appear to sabotage it from the very beginning, not even planning alone time with her when you visited, and basically avoiding having sex with her when there was plenty of opportunity. I think we all saw it.
The child had nothing to do with our breakup. Since it was a LDR my actual interaction with the child was nonexistent. The most interaction was when I was on video chat and said hi. The child was something that I would cross that bridge when I got to it which the only way I'd need to address it was if we got really serious and I moved to her city which was nowhere in sight.
Your memory of what I posted about the failed visit is completely incorrect but I do not feel like going back to that crap again so I'm leaving that alone.
Well since the regulars know I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of the month, I feel I should confess something. I’m always sprouting about how many rules I have for dating. Some of these include:
- no single moms
- not accepting advances from women who initiated
- no being friends with exes
I have to confess that I broke all three of those rules to date my ex. She is a single mother to an older child, she messaged me out of the blue (we were friends before) and revealed she had a huge crush on me, and after we broke up we still have a pretty good friendship after working out the bad breakup. I feel like I owe the forum an apology for sprouting about all these rules and not even following them myself. I honestly would choose to break them rules again because I had a connection with a really cool person.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m probably still going to prefer to follow these rules for future dating but I’m not going to hold an absolute hard line to them if I really like someone and look at them on a case by case basis. Sometimes when the universe sends someone cool your way you should indulge that connection even if they don’t line up perfectly with your preferred prerequisites.
Conscience cleared.
Rules are fine, maybe they can be more like guidelines in reality. One of the things that struck me as I got older was the realization that life is really far more gray in a lot of ways than the more black and white that we tend to think when we're younger. Coming clean is fine but in reality you really don't owe anything to people here.😀
Well since the regulars know I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of the month, I feel I should confess something. I’m always sprouting about how many rules I have for dating. Some of these include:
- no single moms
- not accepting advances from women who initiated
- no being friends with exes
I have to confess that I broke all three of those rules to date my ex. She is a single mother to an older child, she messaged me out of the blue (we were friends before) and revealed she had a huge crush on me, and after we broke up we still have a pretty good friendship after working out the bad breakup. I feel like I owe the forum an apology for sprouting about all these rules and not even following them myself. I honestly would choose to break them rules again because I had a connection with a really cool person.
Dis...I'll bet a lot of us would break the rules for the right person.
You aren't alone.
I know I do.
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