Wait, isn't it emotional load then? (dating, girls, jealous, Latin)
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For those of you that don't know what emotional load means, it means when you have feelings for someone and you wait for their text, call, or are always wondering who they might be seeing and what not. An emotional load for text messaging would be waiting and looking to see when someone you are interested in texts you.
So if someone tells you (where dating has occurred):
"I don't feel an emotional load with you. For example when I text you, and I see you don't respond soon after, I think to myself 'Oh he must be busy which is why he isn't responding.'"
But isn't that an emotional load in itself? When I text someone that I have no emotional load towards (most people) I don't for a split second think to myself about that stuff. I send them a text, put my phone down and don't think about when, or why they aren't responding right away. Only with guys I am interested in do I wonder when or why they haven't gotten back to me.
There is this guy the I recently met that said this and I is confused. He also told me that he gets jealous when I am with other guys, but then the next day makes it a point to tell me that if I were to date someone he wouldn't feel jealous at all. But then he texts me every day, and if I bring up a guy's name he's curious to know who he is and how we met.
I am not pursuing this at all. Don't have time for games, moving on. It's just his whole emotional load comment, I felt made no sense. Or am I reading it wrong?
I've heard of "mental load" and "emotional labor." But those are different.
It just sounds like anxiety made worse by insecurity, and people who aren't good at modulating/regulating their emotions are gonna have this so-called "emotional load." But it's not a good thing. It's not something anyone should WISH to have.
I've heard of "mental load" and "emotional labor." But those are different.
It just sounds like anxiety made worse by insecurity, and people who aren't good at modulating/regulating their emotions are gonna have this so-called "emotional load." But it's not a good thing. It's not something anyone should WISH to have.
Yeah, he's insecure for sure. I just found that comment so perplexing. He's telling me he has no emotional load, by giving me an example of him experiencing emotional load towards me? Did I interpret that right?
Yeah, he's insecure for sure. I just found that comment so perplexing. He's telling me he has no emotional load, by giving me an example of him experiencing emotional load towards me? Did I interpret that right?
Not really.
It just sounds like he's trying to hard to show that he is secure, which ends up revealing him to be insecure.
That doesn't sound like 'emotional load' as you've described it, though.
Some people are too insecure to speak up and say what they really mean, so they give everything a hipster label to counterfeit their real feelings. Do not ever form a relationship with these type of people. You will spend all your time trying to figure out the truth of what they feel, believe and think.
I may not be following, but if emotional load means in part anticipating a response from someone you've contacted, are we now defining that as bad? Interest is bad? Hoping some nascent feelings are reciprocated is bad? Maybe I'm confused?
I've heard of "mental load" and "emotional labor." But those are different.
It just sounds like anxiety made worse by insecurity, and people who aren't good at modulating/regulating their emotions are gonna have this so-called "emotional load." But it's not a good thing. It's not something anyone should WISH to have.
I've used the term "emotionally invested" before. I guess it just means you care. I don't get hung up on the time it takes to get texted back as I am not dating 13 year old girls who live on their phone.
I may not be following, but if emotional load means in part anticipating a response from someone you've contacted, are we now defining that as bad? Interest is bad? Hoping some nascent feelings are reciprocated is bad? Maybe I'm confused?
I don't think it's bad at all. It's just telling someone you don't have that emotional load, and you giving them an example that you might? I think that is where my confusion lies.
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