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You want to spend more time with her? You're sure that's what you want? Then call her on the phone and tell her so. There is nothing offensive in this. It's not aggressive. You are telling her that you would like to see her. She will say yes or no. You will accept her response gracefully. And gratefully.
Do not try to guess what she wants or doesn't want based on how long it took her to text you. Text is trash. Standing up straight and phoning, making yourself present, these are things that communicate interest and maturity.
you came off as needy when you texted her 2 hours after. she saw it and probably isn't interested. you can try one more time but don't bet on it. move on.
Here is another way to look at it. You waited two hours just to send her a text that read "nice to meet you". Now you're going to make her wait two days before you check back in. Many women are turned off by timid men who lack confidence.
This. Though, she might not have been "turned off" as much as confused, and then perhaps concluded he wasn't interested. Then again, maybe she was turned off, because this kind of thing happens often in the online dating world.
In my experience on OLD, some/many (?) men lack enough confidence to step up to the plate and ask a woman for a proper date. They seem to want the women to do all the work, and appear to use OLD as little more than a mechanism for validation, with no intention of following through on anything -- because, if they did, the j*g is up, so to speak. It's all too risky for them. Much easier to remain on the periphery and complain that women are "too picky" or "too [whatever]."
As noted earlier, I asked her if she would like to meet again this coming weekend, but her sister will be visiting from out-of-state. I'm going to reach out again in a few days and suggest something for the following week. I suspect her response to that will tell the story.
I still find it amusing that some people criticized me for not asking for the second date immediately, while others suggested that texting her hours after the date made me seem "needy."
As noted earlier, I asked her if she would like to meet again this coming weekend, but her sister will be visiting from out-of-state. I'm going to reach out again in a few days and suggest something for the following week. I suspect her response to that will tell the story.
I still find it amusing that some people criticized me for not asking for the second date immediately, while others suggested that texting her hours after the date made me seem "needy."
I know. People have all different ideas. There is no "right" way...you do what you are comfortable with. I think your plan sounds good.
As noted earlier, I asked her if she would like to meet again this coming weekend, but her sister will be visiting from out-of-state. I'm going to reach out again in a few days and suggest something for the following week. I suspect her response to that will tell the story.
I still find it amusing that some people criticized me for not asking for the second date immediately, while others suggested that texting her hours after the date made me seem "needy."
I wouldn't be so quick to give up on her. Be confident and give her at least a couple more chances. Maybe she is playing hard to get because she IS interested, too. If you do ask her out again, make sure it is NOT last minute, like calling mid week for a Friday or Sat. date. Keep us posted! Good luck!
Last night, I had a coffee date with a woman from OLD. Now I'm stuck in that limbo known as, "I'd like to see her again, but have no idea if she feels the same."
Prior to the date, she expressed more enthusiasm towards meeting me than anyone I'd ever met online. Our conversation was very pleasant, and probably could have gone on for several more hours. As we were leaving, she said "This was fun" and when we parted ways near the parking lot she said "Keep in touch." But when I texted her two hours later to say it was nice meeting her earlier, I got no reply.
So I'm in that awkward place where I don't know whether I should be eager to see her again or be moving on with my life. I'm thinking in a few days I'll reach out with a suggestion of meeting again and see what happens. What do you think?
That's exactly what you should do and stop over thinking it.
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