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O.K., lets be straight up honest! When we give you the impression that a nice card, a quiet dinner and some flowers is all that is needed to express your love to us, the reality is we really expect a sunset dinner on a Tahiti beach at dusk. So, the only consolation prize to keep you out of the doghouse is a rock and I don't mean some mall bought trinket, NO!, I;m talking the good stuff!
See now that men know the rules, they have no reason to hate Valentines Day. Just do what we want and everything is fine!
Hate is too strong a word. Rather, I'm bemused by the importance some people place on an occasion to which I am best indifferent. It's a total non-event and, if I could, I'd treat Christmas the same way.
I've had several male bosses and friends over the years who whine about Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, and wedding anniversaries being "Hallmark Holidays."
WTF !?!
These men had wonderful wives and GFs who did more housework than the guys, more childcare than the guys (many raising the guy's stepchildren), buying the guy's favourite foods at the supermarket, did more cooking than the guys, and created the couple's social lives.
And Mr can't take an hour or so 3 - 5 days a year to find a gift or experience (restaurant dinner, mani-pedi certificate) for the gal who has done so much for him?
WTF?
I'm a wife and mother and I agree with your male friends that Valentine's Day and Mother's Day are high-pressure holidays. Anniversaries maybe not so much, because couples generally talk about them beforehand and agree on something to do.
Yes, I think husbands should make an effort to show their wives how much they appreciate them on a regular basis and do something special for them, and vice versa. The problem is the expectation that it be a certain kind of gift or experience, on a certain specific day. If you don't do it just right, you are screwed, because your spouse will be hearing from all his/her friends about the amazing things THEIR spouses did. It's easy not to measure up, and easy to feel resentful about having to go through the whole program whether you want to or not.
Personally I would rather have my husband take me out for dinner at a nice restaurant on a different day when 99% of other couples aren't eating out and every restaurant is therefore insanely crowded. And I appreciate a box of chocolates or a bunch of flowers much more if they arrive on a day that isn't a prescheduled, mass-marketed "Give Your Sweetie a Gift" day. If my husband brings me a gift on a random day like August 23 (and that kind of thing has happened), then I know he did it just because he loves me, not because it's an Official Gift Day.
I will admit I was a little put out the one year he forgot my birthday, though. That only happened once, and he swears he knew my birthday was that week, but got the date mixed up and thought it was the next day.
Guys if you don't give your wife or girlfriend a brand new Lexus with a red bow on the hood for Valentines day you are a loser and your lady probably deserves someone better.
O.K., lets be straight up honest! When we give you the impression that a nice card, a quiet dinner and some flowers is all that is needed to express your love to us, the reality is we really expect a sunset dinner on a Tahiti beach at dusk. So, the only consolation prize to keep you out of the doghouse is a rock and I don't mean some mall bought trinket, NO!, I;m talking the good stuff!
See now that men know the rules, they have no reason to hate Valentines Day. Just do what we want and everything is fine!
Hah...we totally downplay Valentine's Day, because it's right on the heels of our wedding anniversary/my birthday (which is on the heels of Christmas). We're tapped out, creativity-wise, at that point.
I've had several male bosses and friends over the years who whine about Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, and wedding anniversaries being "Hallmark Holidays."
WTF !?!
These men had wonderful wives and GFs who did more housework than the guys, more childcare than the guys (many raising the guy's stepchildren), buying the guy's favourite foods at the supermarket, did more cooking than the guys, and created the couple's social lives.
And Mr can't take an hour or so 3 - 5 days a year to find a gift or experience (restaurant dinner, mani-pedi certificate) for the gal who has done so much for him?
WTF?
I am female and agree. Hate these Hallmark Holidays! We do celebrate our birthdays, wedding anniversary and day we met anniversary. I do get cards/ fussed over by my kids on mother’s day and I send out Christmas cards to a select few.
As for expecting something nice from my husband one day a year, dictated by Hallmark? No thank you, I won’t trade that for every other day of the year we celebrate our love. I get flowers and special treats for no reason at all! I get at least a loving or funny card once a month. I am told at least twice daily how much I am loved. Those are the last words we share with each other before we go to sleep and the first words we share when we wake up in the morning. Then, usually a number of times during the day. We go out for nice meals or mini celebrations for all kinds of things. Why wait for February 14th for that? Actually that is the one day we avoid going out.
Don’t wait for February 14th to show your love, show it everyday, every day should be a celebration.
Too much hassle and not enough return just for sex
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