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** sorry title should say 12 years older - can't seem to edit title **
I'm with my man now nearly 3 years and we've had a few break ups but got back together. I'm 43, he's 55 and I really enjoy his company, he's so honest, kind, caring and loving but I'm bored in the relationship.
I wish he was more outgoing and we just do the same thing every weekend and I feel like I'm wasting my life! I've told him this at the last break up and he said he'd definitely try and do more things together and go out more but it rarely happens.
I'm at a stage where I want more from it and to get out more and travel abit but he seems to be happy to sit indoors! I really don't know what to do and part of me says he's so honest, loyal and loving etc that I find it hard to let him go as he treats me with so much love and respect!! Then I worry if I do break it off I mightn't get a man as honest and loving as him!
Any advice so welcome as I'm confused and it's causing me Anxiety!
Joanne
This isn't about age. It's about a personality mismatch. I've known many men this age who are still very active, love to get out and do stuff, travel, etc. And they weren't necessarily "bad boys". They just were active, extroverted people.
The problem is, it's really, really hard to find a male companion at your age. All my single female friends this age tell me the dating scene is awful - men sending them unsolicited pictures of their "equipment" is not unusual. Yuck.
If you never had trouble finding male companionship, perhaps it's worth the risk. But the odds are if you dump this one, you could wind up alone. If you're willing to risk that, I'd break up and go hunting for a more lively guy.
This isn't about age. It's about a personality mismatch. I've known many men this age who are still very active, love to get out and do stuff, travel, etc. And they weren't necessarily "bad boys". They just were active, extroverted people.
The problem is, it's really, really hard to find a male companion at your age. All my single female friends this age tell me the dating scene is awful - men sending them unsolicited pictures of their "equipment" is not unusual. Yuck.
If you never had trouble finding male companionship, perhaps it's worth the risk. But the odds are if you dump this one, you could wind up alone. If you're willing to risk that, I'd break up and go hunting for a more lively guy.
Should I stay with him if I'm not in love with him?
Get out of the safety zone and break up if your not happy. He’s a good guy and you don’t want to give that up. You know exactly what your gonna get. Sometimes that’s good and sometimes that’s bad.
If you don’t want to leave the relationship, Your gonna have to be the one to come up with things to do since you’re the one that’s not content. If he cares about your needs then he will be up for something different.
Everything was good, but unfortunately I don't feel that spark anymore, have fell out of love and have been trying to avoid intimate stuff
But what do you mean "good"? Was he more active, did things together, since this seems to be your main complaint?
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