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I bought tickets to one of my favorite bands. They are a local metal band which I had the opportunity to buy a pair of the few tickets left. Luckily for me, my online girlfriend is coming over to visit me over the holidays since I went over to see her during a foreign dating event back last time. But when i asked her to accompany me, she refused because she’s not a fan of the genre. Even if she goes with me for the sake of spending time with me, she told me that she’s afraid of the venue and everything that revolves “metal.” What should I do? Should I keep convincing her or just invite someone else? It would be a shame to lose these tickets, but I don’t want to push her.
I bought tickets to one of my favorite bands. They are a local metal band which I had the opportunity to buy a pair of the few tickets left. Luckily for me, my online girlfriend is coming over to visit me over the holidays since I went over to see her during a foreign dating event back last time. But when i asked her to accompany me, she refused because she’s not a fan of the genre. Even if she goes with me for the sake of spending time with me, she told me that she’s afraid of the venue and everything that revolves “metal.” What should I do? Should I keep convincing her or just invite someone else? It would be a shame to lose these tickets, but I don’t want to push her.
It's a local metal band, so you will have an opportunity to get a ticket again.
Is she doesn't like the band, don't push. Sell the tickets. Spend some quality time just with her. Try to appreciate her visit, try to know her better, do stuff you both like.
How long will she stay in your place?
If she is frightened of a "metal" band, such as Winger, toss her back in the ocean.
If she's frightened of a "metal" band, such as Marilyn Manson, she's a keeper. Sell the ticket and go to church instead.
It's a local metal band, so you will have an opportunity to get a ticket again.
Is she doesn't like the band, don't push. Sell the tickets. Spend some quality time just with her. Try to appreciate her visit, try to know her better, do stuff you both like.
How long will she stay in your place?
I suppose you're right, there's a lot of stuff we can do together, I guess I really just wanted to share this particular interest with her. But you're right, the band will always be here, she's only here for 3 weeks. Thanks!
Oof. Sorry, my mistake, I was the one who visited over the holidays last time. Sorry, my head's not really screwed on right today. Sorry for the trouble!
Maybe that will teach you to ask first before you buy. And if she's your gf why in the world are you not aware that she's scared of metal bands and certain places?
Those kinds of tix though are not hard to sell right? Just sell it.
A relationship is about give and take and trying new things with your partner.
One night doing something unfamiliar isn't going to kill her. If you know the band and venue well, and see nothing to warrant legitimate fear, I'd keep trying to persuade her. I'm sure you've done some things with her that weren't particularly enjoyable for you, but worth it to be with her.
It might be different if she were only going to be there a few days, but three weeks? That's 20 other days to cater to her wishes.
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I bought tickets to one of my favorite bands. They are a local metal band which I had the opportunity to buy a pair of the few tickets left. Luckily for me, my online girlfriend is coming over to visit me over the holidays since I went over to see her during a foreign dating event back last time. But when i asked her to accompany me, she refused because she’s not a fan of the genre. Even if she goes with me for the sake of spending time with me, she told me that she’s afraid of the venue and everything that revolves “metal.” What should I do? Should I keep convincing her or just invite someone else? It would be a shame to lose these tickets, but I don’t want to push her.
Just invite someone else. 3 weeks is plenty of time to find other things to do, one night doesn’t make that much a difference.
I've had many of friends pull me into things out of my comfort zone and ended up enjoying myself.
It is not uncommon for couples to have differing interests.... it is wise to learn to allow "the individual" to thrive/enjoy as well as the "the couple".
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