What are things you see in dating profiles that will make you sadly skip past them? (married, woman)

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by EmilyFoxSeaton

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- I am passionate about ...
- I am passionate about exercise
- I am passionate about travel
- I am passionate about "living" / outdoors.
- I am passionate about sports.
- I am passionate about music.

IMHO, anyone over 25 who is still passionate about music needs to grow up. Sports is something I dislike so if you like it I will have a child on my couch every Sunday watching something I don't care about. Not a camper so I don't want to be outdoors. In general who is passionate these days? If you are you are lying or have little to do.

I don't want to adopt a child.. who happens to be an adult.

Finally what is with the photos? Some are so bad. If you were trying to look like a mug shot you couldn't do any better. Do NOT take photos with sunglasses.

I don't really understand anything you've said. Being passionate about music is bad? I know professional musicians, people who love playing in bands... I'm passionate about music in my 40s, I work on music projects all the time. I am not much into camping, but I love being outdoors... I have no idea what kayaking or hiking or nature photography has to do with camping.


If people aren't passionate about something, that is a huge turn off! People without passions are boring people. I have lots to do, those things involve my passions!

[old_cold]

Everything else looks really good and then, something like "My church is my life".

[scribbles76]

Originally Posted by EmilyFoxSeaton

IMHO, anyone over 25 who is still passionate about music needs to grow up.

Sod that for a game of soldiers. Music is one of the reasons I'm still alive.

Why should growing up, whatever that means, dull my passion for one of the greatest comforts and sources of inspiration this world has afforded me?

[49ersfan27]

I've never online dated, but if I were to do so one day.. Things that would make me skip a woman or be deal-breaker would be:

1. Sarcasm. "I am a sarcastic person" aka I'm a *****. Not falling for it and won't put up with it.

2. Children. Not interested in dating women who have kids from previous relationships. Automatic skip

3. Ask me anything or follow me on instagram or snapchat. These women are lazy and don't want to put in effort to meet at all. Automatic skip.

4. Always in a bar. I'm going to assume you're an alcoholic and don't want to be around someone who needs alcohol to have fun.

[buildings_and_bridges]

When I think about it, I'm glad I found someone, because I am mighty picky.

When I was single and scrolling through OKCupid (often a scary place), I had problems with:

-those who seemed to be interested only in casual relationships/sex/already in a relationship and wants a side chick/is into polyamory

-those for whom religion played a huge role in their life (I'm not going to church for someone)

-those who had kids (not because I don't like them, but because my plan wasn't to have any)

-those who didn't like having pets

-smokers and heavy drinkers

-any sign of racism/homophobia/transphobia (a lot of times this will come out when a guy insists he's soooo masculine...in my experience, women are more subtle about it)

-anyone with photos of him or herself and an animal they've killed (I'm a vegetarian, but I can respect if you hunt for your own food...I can't respect this grinning from ear to ear with your prey stuff)

-anyone who dislikes being outdoors (I love nature walks, hiking, swimming, etc.)

-people who say they don't like romance (I dated a woman who felt this way once, and was shocked that she really didn't have a romantic bone in her body...what is it that Oprah says about when people show you who they are, believe them? I learned the hard way).

[sonnymarkjiz]

As a guy:


-Shots with giant cleavage
-Duck face pics
-Pics with the Snapchat filters (you know what I'm talking about)
-Pics where the girls are with multiple girls so you don't know whose profile it is
-The profiles who involve anything political like "TRUMP SUPPORTERS NOT WELCOME! I GRAB BACK!"
-The profiles where the girl says "don't message me if...."
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[chiluvr1228]

My turn-off's are:


-Posing with a car, motorcycle, boat or airplane
- Hunting
- Extensive Traveling
- Young kids (which at my age has only happened once)
- Smoker
- Braggart

[Arya Stark]

Originally Posted by timberline742

If people aren't passionate about something, that is a huge turn off! People without passions are boring people. I have lots to do, those things involve my passions!

People who are "passionate" are selfish. If they had real responsibilities they wouldn't have the energy for such things or wouldn't want to deal with them.

I know so many people that married these "passionate" people who then didn't give up their passions for marriage. The wife was expected to do all the responsibilities while the immature guy acted like he had a god given right to continue to exercise, sing, or whatever his desire was in his free time. No concern for the woman's desire.

Massive red flags.

If you are boring sing it in your profile - that is marriage material.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by timberline742

I look for reasons to connect, not to not connect, with people.

I look for things that could potentially cause a problem with connecting.

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by EmilyFoxSeaton

People who are "passionate" are selfish. If they had real responsibilities they wouldn't have the energy for such things or wouldn't want to deal with them.

I know so many people that married these "passionate" people who then didn't give up their passions for marriage. The wife was expected to do all the responsibilities while the immature guy acted like he had a god given right to continue to exercise, sing, or whatever his desire was in his free time. No concern for the woman's desire.

Massive red flags.

If you are boring sing it in your profile - that is marriage material.

You make it sound like there aren't passionate women out there that love white water kayaking, mountain climbing, playing in bands, traveling! Or that couples don't do these things together, they absolutely do. Often it is the woman who is more passionate about activities and adventures then the guys.


You just know irresponsible people. That is not synonymous with passionate people. The most responsible, productive, professional members of society I know are incredibly passionate, and not just about their careers and families.


And exercise is optional now? "God given right to exercise"? I'd say, mandate to exercise.

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

I look for things that could potentially cause a problem with connecting.

I hope that tactic doesn't prevent you from making connections!