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What I hate is when somebody who doesn't know you at all tries to tell you what options you had, needs to stop. Op I believe you because I didn't have options either and I know a few guys who have dealt with this too.
I am speaking in general. I don't know the OP's specific case, or yours.
I do know that being "ugly" as the OP calls himself, does NOT mean you can never date or marry or have sex.
As was mentioned up thread... find a blind person.
I think that, more often than not, it is personality and personal traits that could make a person less likely to date.
When a really good looking person has some of those same traits, folks are sometimes willing to tolerate it because they're really good looking (or good in bed, or make a lot of money, or something).
If you're homely as a beat up dog, you really have GOT to show up with a great personality and some traits people can use to overlook your other shortcomings.
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Op you know what's been helping lately is when I get in the internet and see some of the disgusting and heartless things women say about men. It makes my blood boil and makes me sick to even look at them at times.
Quit reading them, then.
I love men. Men are wonderful. I'm married to one. I have quite a few exes that I still keep in touch with because we remained friends. Two of my kids are male.
In short, I think you're reading the wrong things and/or adding your own slant to what you see.
Men can say some really disgusting things about women, too. I choose not to read them.
What purpose is reading that hateful crap going to serve?
Being a jerk isn't gender-specific.
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This crap again, does someone see your personality when they aren't attracted you? You can talk that personality bull all you want us ugly people know someone being attracted to you is how they see your personality.
It's not crap. Yes, you have to get people to talk to you first.
So, you have to GO OUT INTO THE SOCIAL WORLD.
Join clubs where there are hobbies you enjoy and the clubs have male and female participants. Take courses where there are men and women taking those courses.
Find friends who are paired up who can introduce you to people.
In short, you cannot be unattractive and hop on Tinder and hope for your inbox to be flooded. Does not work for either gender.
Go out and look at couples everywhere. Young and old. Notice that not all of them are gorgeous. Some are downright ugly.
And, there they are... coupled.
I'm not making it up. Go see for yourself.
If you live in a place full of mostly self-absorbed "beautiful people" consider moving.
At the very least, drive to a place nearby where the population is a bit less "perfect" and people watch. Or take a vacation to such a place.
You will be amazed.
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I can relate to his story since I was also unfortunate enough to be born with physically unattractive looks; Before my car accident in 2016 I was probably a 1.5 or a 2 out of 10. After the accident I am now probably a (negative)--8 or --9 .
Growing up I had plenty of friends but never any romantic relationships. I am obviously a virgin, but have also never had even one kiss or held hands with a woman.
Growing up My question of course was how does one come to terms with it and try to learn to live a happy life?
I would be interested to hear advice (excluding prostitution) for someone in our position.......who is unable to ever experience mutual romantic attraction and intimacy due to extreme physical unattractiveness due to genetics or unfortunate accidents?.........
I've previously considered castration, testosterone reduction, and plastic surgery.
I also believe the education system should consider enforcing all male schooling for those with features that will undoubtedly prohibit female romantic interest during adolescence....At least the ugly guys wouldn't have to experience the perpetual sting of rejection....and the young ladies wouldn't have to feel uncomfortable by ugly guys asking them out. Win win for all.
This is definitely a problem in today's world as many are struggling as evidenced by this forum. Granted we are a small minority, yet IMO not a small as previously believed.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts.
Thanks.
Also, wanted to add:
If you are who I think you are, you practically stalked that poor girl in high school.
You still need to see someone about that issue. I'm sorry if you've had an accident that has reduced your confidence in yourself, but that's a separate issue from your inability to read people's cues.
I do wish you well, though.
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