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Old 03-08-2018, 03:09 AM
 
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Ran across this girl on FB last week and thought she was cute. Upon further investigation I found that we actually go to the same school and have really similar interests. So I just sent her a brief genuine message about how I wanted to talk to her and she responded well.

So we talk and she seems interested (she literally said she is interested in meeting new people) she ends up being interesting and able to hold a conversation with ease. So a couple of days go by of fairly casual conversation and I decide to heat things up sexually and just see how she responds. She responded well and indirectly invited me over that night.

Of course I was at work. :l

After I explained that, she didn't respond and I assumed she had fallen asleep because it was late anyway. No big deal. Next day I decide to just wait for her to respond or start the conversation and it was silence for 2 days until randomly she apologized and said she was **** at replying, to which I basically replied that it was no big deal and that I wanted to take her out. She said "yes, that sounds like fun!!" so she gave me her number and I texted her letting her know that it was me.

Again no response for 2 days. Then I sent a message asking her what she was doing the next day and again she waited until the next day and apologized again for being **** at replying. But she seemed interested and said that she was pretty sure that she would be free the next day. I'm not free tomorrow (3/8) and so I asked if she was free for next Tuesday.

Silence on the air waves once again.

What gives? Why would someone give their number, and agree 2 times to a date that they actually don't want to go to.....?

Is she just "too nice" to say that shes not that interested, or is she playing some game?
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Old 03-08-2018, 04:25 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Not interested. You are probably sitting on the back burner...
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Old 03-08-2018, 05:07 AM
 
Location: NJ
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Agree , she's not interested and is probably trying not to hurt your feelings.
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Old 03-08-2018, 06:36 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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You've made 2 attempts. Let it go. If she really is interested and just bad at replying, the 3rd attempt would be initiated by her.
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Old 03-08-2018, 07:13 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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...said she was **** at replying

...she waited until the next day and apologized again for being **** at replying.
If someone is into you, they get real good at replying.

You are not a priority. Sorry
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Old 03-08-2018, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville
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Don’t ever initiate contact with her again.

If she contacts you, make a date on the spot. Don’t let it spiral into some texting buddy BS.

If she makes up some crap or flakes out on you again, dont initiate contact again, and I wouldn’t respond even if she initiates at that point.

I don’t know why she invites you out that night you had to work. Would have been curious to see that had you accepted, if she would have come up with some lame excuse and texted you a half hour later to cancel, right before you were ready to leave to go see her.
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Old 03-08-2018, 07:31 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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She sounds a little flakey. Do you ever talk to her in real life? She may not take your interest seriously if you don’t see her regularly.

Try to have coffee with her during the day when there is less pressure and fewer expectations.
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Old 03-08-2018, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Central Virginia
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So a couple of days go by of fairly casual conversation and I decide to heat things up sexually and just see how she responds. She responded well and indirectly invited me over that night.



You're just some random guy who messaged her through FB, and then after only a couple (two?) days, escalated it to a sexual conversation. OP, she's not interested.
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Old 03-08-2018, 08:54 AM
 
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I have a slightly different take on this.


Let's see, she invites you to her place, but YOU put HER off.


She says she's available on such and such day, but YOU were unavailable.


Honestly, I think both of you are having timing issues. I could see how SHE'S wondering if you're playing with her. I mean, she DIRECTLY let you know she was available, and both times YOU closed her down.


I'm not saying you did it to be mean, you have to go to work, and presumably the second time was for a good reason too...but try putting yourself in HER shoes, and maybe she's wondering what YOUR game is.
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Old 03-08-2018, 08:55 AM
 
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Send her a picture with your shirt off.
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