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Four months ago on November 9th my husband Matthew
Is it too soon move on start dating
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I'm of the camp that says that Four months may be a bit soon for dating...that said, I imagine that your husband would want you to move forward if any form of him exists beyond this life. There are dangers to look out for like some of the dangers that were mentioned by other posters. As far as not respecting your husband...it depends. There are a lot of people who have touched my life but have moved on. I imagine they would want me to make the best life that I can.
I don't think so at all. She needs sex. She might not have had sex in somewhere between 4-12 months.
...hahaha...sure, then let's just call it what it is..."dating" as a euphemism for "hooking up", at least based on your guess. OP can clarify if they wish - but neither of those will be looked upon positively for a woman especially - doesn't mean it's wrong.
I had a friend (Pat), and as her husband (Jim) was in the terminal stages of his disease and dying, they found her a good prospective partner (Jaime) for when he (Jim) had passed. She was dating and married fairly quickly. His was a slow death, both knew it was coming, and both were looking out for each other. She mourned appropriately while he was still alive and they (Jim and Pat) processed it very well. They (Pat and Jaime) have been together over 25 years, if I recall correctly.
There's another set of unaccounted for variables that we can offer conjecture in the mix of what the OP offered.
YRMV. We really shouldn't be privy to all the intricacies and personal detail of why this should or shouldn't work. Speak to a counselor, a minister, a rabbi, or other mystic. Truth and honest vulnerability is better than any conjecture we could offer, which may further be an indication you are not ready, because you are looking to play tennis vs. enter reality, even while writing on this forum.
It depends on a lot of factors. Was your husband terminally ill for a long time so in your mind you had already mourned him? Was he a bad husband and now you wish to move on? Are you lonely so you are looking to get into another relationship right away?
Was he in Hospice? They have grief meetings and some churches also have them free of charge. It's called Grief Share.
I started dating around 6 months after my husband died because I wanted to be a wife again. However I realized there was no replacing him and now after being alone for almost 8 years I prefer to keep it that way.
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