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So I went on a coffee date with someone I met online. He acted so disinterested the moment he saw me. We got coffee and sat down, he barely talked. I thought it would be so awkward to just leave, so I managed to find some topics to talk about for an hour and we went on our separate ways.
I still can't get over the embarrassment this whole event brought me. Was the guy being rude? Should I have just left? To me, it's ok if you're not interested, but if you ask someone out and that person disappoints you look wise( got to be looks since it's our first time meeting) at least be friendly..
So I went on a coffee date with someone I met online. He acted so disinterested the moment he saw me. We got coffee and sat down, he barely talked. I thought it would be so awkward to just leave, so I managed to find some topics to talk about for an hour and we went on our separate ways.
I still can't get over the embarrassment this whole event brought me. Was the guy being rude? Should I have just left? To me, it's ok if you're not interested, but if you ask someone out and that person disappoints you look wise( got to be looks since it's our first time meeting) at least be friendly..
Of course not
I forgot to thank him for coffee at the end cause he left so fast... I'd like to send him a quick thank you note but then I don't want to embarrass myself again.
Of course not
I forgot to thank him for coffee at the end cause he left so fast... I'd like to send him a quick thank you note but then I don't want to embarrass myself again.
I would let it go.
It sounds like you made the best of it. Some dates just don't work out.
I was wondering if I did the right thing by dragging the date into 1 hour or I should've left right after sensing
his disappointment/disinterest.
No, there is such a thing as jitters, and it sometimes takes people a while to relax and warm up to each other.
But if you had to literally drag conversation out of him, then yeah, an hour sounds pretty brutal.
You can always joke about it, as in saying, "So ... you disappointed?" when you notice that he's acting "off." He may just tell you. Of course, that's no fun, but you won't waste time chit-chatting.
No sense in turning it over and over in your head. If you weren't a match, you weren't a match. Sorry
He seemed so disinterested from the get-go, but your 'meet' was for almost an hour? Did you do ALL the talking?
Next time you think your date isn't feeling it, rip the band-aid and be done with it sooner. Keep your first meets to coffee.
I did... I thought it's the social norm to sit down for that long and I did try not to talk and there's just awkward silence. I was waiting for his cue to finish the meet but he'd try reluctantly to continue the conversation..
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