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I think it’s up to you and who’s judgment you trust. My family never approved initially of any of my gfs in high school. I don’t care about my family’s opinion nor value it. I told them to pound sand and dated who I wanted.
Hello i have been dating a guy for a year now. I love him very much and im really happy. However my mom thinks he is an "ok" guy but feels i could do better. Her reasoning is because he is lazy, has an u steady job and she has no respect for someone that doesnt even try at life. She isnt wrong at what she says. I agree with her. However that doesnt take away my love for him. She feels down the road i will be unhappy and wont put up with it. She feels im.making a mistake. She supports me but it scares me because i know she is right. I wouldnt be surprised when we move in together if i get irritated at his laziness and lack of a good job and tired of supporting him. Im afraid to continue only to get heart broken. My mom knows me well and wouldnt steer me wrong but i am not wanting to give up on him. I feel i need to try living with him to see how it will be to determine on my own. Mom thinks he will be a supportive loving man to me only because he wants what i have...a great job, makes good money, nice house etc. I dont get that from him but am I love blind? Im afraid to get hurt but im torn at what to do.
Are you saying you KNOW he's lazy? Or are you saying you suspect your mom knows more about it than you do?
IF you know he's lazy, what are his positive qualities that will help off-set that for you?
Me personally, I don't think I could tolerate living with someone who's absolutely no help. But, everyone is different, so there must be something about him that you find endearing and loveable.
I suspect that on some level, she knows this. The question is, why is she over-riding her better judgment, and telling herself she's in love with this guy?
You don't need to listen to your mom. Listen to yourself. Read your words.
Yep.
Taradog, WHY do you think you keep staying with him, even though YOU know it isn't right for you? Stop thinking about your mom and just picture your future with him. You know the deal. Listen to your gut.
I thought it was going to be "cause he's black" thread. I'm disappointed. OP, it sounds like you don't approve of him either because of his laziness.
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