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Hahaha grab bags?! Aren't people just bizzare? Walking around undiagnosed.
Yeah, they seem fun and interesting....then that actually turns into "oh oh he really is crazy".
Maybe your stalker guy and one of my kooky OLD guys could "hustle" together, one was working on an patent for his invention. It was top secret: fill shot gun shells with seasonings, so that the animal would be injected with flavor immediately when hit. He whispered about it to me at the food court.
Omg, that sounds hilarious. You could have Thai shots, Indian shots, Moroccan shots and Greek shots. And don’t forget the glaze option - for paintball.
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Omg, that sounds hilarious. You could have Thai shots, Indian shots, Moroccan shots and Greek shots. And don’t forget the glaze option - for paintball.
When you read this post without the quote it was responding to, the visuals were fantastic.
Heh. I think it’s a common occurrence growing up in NYC to get followed or at least cursed at after turning someone down while walking around. Once you hit your teens, it’s a wrap. Not every time of course, but enough that it no longer seems unusual.
When I was in college there was a rash of women getting punched or shot in nightclubs for turning men down. I remember being very nervous in clubs at that time.
It depends upon the way in which the "no" is delivered.
Not really.
Mostly because we are not mind readers.
Like if I say a nice, or "soft" no to one guy, trying not to hurt his feelings because he's a human being and all, he might decide that my no is something he can talk me out of, if he tries harder. Guys ask women for reasons they're being turned down, unfortunately so that they can try and craft some sort of a debate to change our minds (which...just does not work, and no one should be doing it.) Women don't want to deal with this nonsense.
Say a firmer and less ambiguous "NO" without an explanation or excuse? And you're being mean, a b-word, hurting the guy's ego, you deserve to be insulted or worse, punished.
There is no right way to do it, because the fact remains regardless that we are telling a man an answer he DOES NOT WANT TO HEAR.
I haven't read all of posts, but yes, some men are not capable if taking No for an answer. They usually are called, Stalkers, Rapists and/or Murderers.
It depends upon the way in which the "no" is delivered.
No means No.
Don't know why guys try to twist the "No" into a "Maybe"....
I recommend that you give as little personal information as possible until you get to know a person. Don't know why people give out their primary phone number so readily. In the end, they are strangers... doesn't matter how attractive they are. My bartender friend deals with this a lot. Fortunately nothing scary like assault or stalking... just guys who constantly ask her out... and don't take no for an answer. One of the guys asked why she spends so much time with me.... I said, I talk to her like a person and hold interesting conversations. Like actually treat her as a person... not a set of boobs, legs, and pretty face.
Don't know why guys try to twist the "No" into a "Maybe"....
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I don't think that's what Frihed meant. I think he was referring to a "no" delivered politely, vs. a rude "no". The latter is more likely to raise ire, obviously. But what he may not understand, is that even a polite "no, thank you", can result in some guys going ballistic.
I am now in contact with the former "NOT" other woman. She wants nothing to do with him, but he is stalking her, sending her emails, knocking on her door at 4:45 am, in the morning. He tries to find out whee she works. Etc. Etc. Etc.
He is a case of adult Aspergers.
I don't understand. Why are you not leaving him? Why doesn't she get a restraining order?
Aspergers makes people stalk others and then lie to the wife?
This is a bizzarre situation, why do you not get out of it? This must be unbearable. I am sorry you have to go through that.
I don't think that's what Frihed meant. I think he was referring to a "no" delivered politely, vs. a rude "no". The latter is more likely to raise ire, obviously. But what he may not understand, is that even a polite "no, thank you", can result in some guys going ballistic.
Ah.. thanks for clarifying.
A firm No (without being rude) seems work for most guys... at least it does with those that I know. The ones that constantly keep coming back won't make a difference... its a problem with the quality of men in a dating pool.
My bartender friend works in a lower class bar that tends to bring in lower quality men. So its no surprise that she deals with guys that don't take no for an answer. Fortunately, it doesn't go much beyond trying to ask her out all the time. We get a flow of professionals too... they usually don't give her trouble.
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