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Oh yeah a girl I knew that lived a few states away we had some sexual tension. She 'ghosted' but because she finally got a BF. She will still like/stalk my stuff. Honestly glad she's happy.
I occasionally see the lady that ghosted me. I have a pretty good idea of why she ghosted me too. (fresh out of another relationship, things were unfinished, she lived far away).
Now, I see her around, but we don't say anything to each other. I don't reach out. She ghosted me, she is going to have to be the one to reopen the lines of communication.
Ghosting = I found someone more stimulating than you thus I don't need to talk to you right now. Response... If they for some reason start bombing you asking for another chance, since they've proven so quickly they are looking to trade up to the next exciting thing, they are good for plate material only. If you want to reply to them to get sex, by all means do so. However, you should not take the relationship beyond that to anything serious. If you think ignoring a person is good enough revenge, you could drag them along with empty promises and then step on them when they are most vulnerable. I don't recommend this, however it is a possible strategy... both sexes certainly do it to each other... dangle empty promises and string a person along...
I've been ghosted a few times and one tried to call me back so I did the correct thing and blocked her number.
I have zero tolerance for flakes and ghosters.
This. Once I was ghosted after a couple of dates - the second date we ended up in bed. Guess I just wasn't good enough for her. But I've also been ghosted after the first initial date. She doesn't want to contact me, or return my call, NEXT!
This. Once I was ghosted after a couple of dates - the second date we ended up in bed. Guess I just wasn't good enough for her. But I've also been ghosted after the first initial date. She doesn't want to contact me, or return my call, NEXT!
And they'll usually come up with some crappy excuse.
Seems like people use ghosting to not give a hard talk about being relationship ready, interest, etc. Of course some people come back when the grass isn't always greener.
I'm not talking about 1-2 dates and you two coming to the conclusion that you two weren't compatible. I'm talking about multiple dates which encompassed some level of intimacy and then POOF. Gone.
I've had a girl I was talking to a few weeks due to scheduling. We finally met and we acted on our sexual chemistry. One night stand. Later she start ignoring my text until about week later I asked what was up. She basically said she felt I wanted to settle down now which she was saying she wasn't ready for a relationship.
I've ghosted one girl because she legit cussed me out and called me 20+ times in a row. A few months later we matched again and I apologized b/c I was going through a rough time myself. I also told her why we were incompatible.
My more recent one I posted about a doctor which I think it's more of a slow fade even though we've been intimate and talked for several weeks.
So let's here it. 9/10 out of us has experienced this at least once.
I’ve never been ghosted, although I think it depends on the definition. There have definitely been a few times where I’ve gone out with a girl multiple times over the course of a month or so, but we were still not official and eventually it just slowly fades (communication less frequent). Then eventually no further plans are made, but it’s not like either person reached out and was completely ignored (i.e. not returning text or calls). It was more just a slow fade, as you said.
I consider ghosting when you are going out frequently, and communicating frequently to the point that you are moving towards a relationship or have actually begun the relationship. Then if someone just completely ignores you and does not return text/calls, that is ghosting to me. That has never happened to me. There have been a couple times where communication slows down and eventually stops with no further plans made, but I don’t consider that ghosting. The girl would still return texts/calls but you can tell the spark/interest has faded, so it slowly ends. I have done that myself too.
After four years of radio silence, which began while my mother was dying and I could really have used a shoulder, it's safe to say she's not coming back.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I will never let myself care again.
People only hurt you if you let them. I let her hurt me time and time again and she probably didn't even realise what she was doing.
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