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jonibananas · 03-26-2018, 10:09 AM

Boyfriend of almost 2 years texts other women. Should I assume it's harmless? Yesterday I saw the picture icon of a girl on his WeChat as his most recent text (he was holding his phone but was not showing me anything) and I also heard his phone go off at 3am. When we were together yesterday I saw him texting someone back and forth but he never said who he was texting. When I asked him what it was at 3am, he said he didn't receive a message and didn't know what it was.

What should I think? I really don't want to snoop.

oh-eve · 03-26-2018, 10:25 AM

Ask him and see what he says

zentropa · 03-26-2018, 10:45 AM

Does he have a history of non-monogamous behavior? I'm not sure there is anything to be worried about now. If he was going to cheat, he would. And there would be many other signs.

stan4 · 03-26-2018, 10:47 AM

I don't know that texting other women is is as big a deal as him lying about it.

I'm a woman who has male friends and I am married and they are married and we still text each other.

Jokes or questions or just funny information or discussions about what kind of food we're gonna eat when we see each other.

But I'm pretty sure we don't lie to our spouses about it.

zentropa · 03-26-2018, 10:53 AM

Did he lie? I didn't see it in the OP.

hickoryfan · 03-26-2018, 10:54 AM

My sister ended up divorcing her husband over text messages. It started out small, but increased to over 500 texts in a 3 month period. All the signs were there: going out of the house to text her, refusing to answer/pick up the phone in her presence, and lying...

Suburban_Guy · 03-26-2018, 10:54 AM

Start texting guys, show your boyfriend, and see how he feels about it.

Ruth4Truth · 03-26-2018, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by zentropa

Did he lie? I didn't see it in the OP.

I take it, that the OP was implying there may have been a lie involved in her SO's denial of knowing who it was at 3 a.m. that contacted him.

BirdieBelle · 03-26-2018, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Suburban_Guy

Start texting guys, show your boyfriend, and see how he feels about it.

Or just act secretive about it, like he does.

Ruth4Truth · 03-26-2018, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by oh-eve

Ask him and see what he says

Your poll options don't include this, OP: talking to him about it. We don't have much info to go on; you mention in the poll (but not in your OP), that "it's happened before", whatever that means. We need more info.