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Unless your wife is continually trying to do things as a foursome, it is up to you to separate yourself from this guy.
Enough times of saying "No" and he might get the hint. If not, you may have to just start ignoring him.
I sometimes wonder this as well. I don't really know her that well. I know for a fact she is (positively) needy, my friend mentioned this to me before. Hence why it's his longest relationship ever.
She is young in age and acts like it (not trying to say this in a bad way), always wants to go out and always be exploring and doing something. She is a good person to have a fun with
That's interesting. Do you think your wife is immature? Or has immature ways about her? Or do you think she finds her fun. Are you more of a serious person? I have a 9 year old and adult children way into their 20s so I haven't been "wild and crazy" for years! LOL. I'm never going to be wild and crazy. That ship has sailed. I'm wondering if she just likes the feeling of just letting loose and feeling "young" again.
I can relate, we used to have a friend like this. She always wanted way more of our time together. She was really needy in that way. She meant well but was just a drama queen to boot and it got to a point where we just stopped hanging out with her and her husband. she just passed away a week or so ago. Her health was starting to go and her marriage fell apart a little bit before. I feel bad for her family. She was only in her mid fifties. Too damn young to go.....
Don't hang with him. You aren't bats. Your wife isn't either, but if she chooses to hang with the gf occasionally, for the sake of peace let her. You should use your spine but this doesn't mean you get to be the fun police BTW.
At the end of the day if person C Is a good person and is your friend and your wife likes his then being a stage 4 clinger isn’t really that big of a deal. He could be a Terrible person with an annoying girlfriend that wants nothing to do with you.
I sometimes wonder this as well. I don't really know her that well. I know for a fact she is (positively) needy, my friend mentioned this to me before. Hence why it's his longest relationship ever. She is young in age and acts like it (not trying to say this in a bad way), always wants to go out and always be exploring and doing something. She is a good person to have a fun with
And there's why your wife likes her.
Try to adjust your thinking and how you deal with it.
I say no many times, but I just feel guilty when I say no like 5x in a row
Again, he is a good person. I don't mind grabbing a quick bite with him once a month or less, I just hate how he forces it to become a regular thing and I try to prevent it at all costs
The issue and dispute is I don't want my wife to "continue as she wishes" because he will use that against me to try to hang out more
Well, that is very immature of you. To expect her to give up that friendship. Tell your friend that no way are you about to get in the way of their girl time. Let them do them, you have to deal with the friend either way.
She just says if she wants to hang out with my friend's gf then she will and there's nothing I can do about it. She says how my friend reacts to them hanging out and all the calls/texts he gives me is my own problem and "sucks to be you". She basically ignores my feelings which is why this is a dispute
Sounds like you’re all still school-aged children. Most married men are thrilled that their wives want to spend time with friends.
It’s time you get a life.
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