Breaking up with someone you love

[Scrat335]

Originally Posted by CF499

This was very helpful, and I think it's spot on. I will say that I had a feeling the breakup was coming (we'd been in a break for 2 months, which she'd wanted after I'd told her my fears of commitment), and she told me last week she wanted to talk, so I kind of anticipated it. I also think I'd be feeling this way even if I'd been the one to ultimately pull the plug. I really, really loved her (yes, even though I didn't always find her to be sexually attractive, I still loved her deeply)...we shared an amazing emotional connection.

I think I'm just getting clouded by a huge wave of nostalgia. Thinking back to all of the places we've been, things we did together, the way she laughed, her smell, the shows we'd watch together, you get the idea. I wish we didn't both still love each other as this would probably be a lot easier.

JEEEEEEZE!!!

If you loved her we wouldn't be having this discussion. She was just a convenience to you. Then she became... inconvenient.

Man to hell up.

[nobodysbusiness]

Thank God she threw in the towel. I hope it's not too late for her to have kids.

You sound very shallow and self-absorbed.

You would be a terrible partner (not in it "for better or worse").

I hope you are a PERFECT male specimen. Post a picture, please.

[rrah]

Is this the same story?

She is 33 and I'm 28. It was going so well :(

[lilyflower3191981]

well, All I have to say is that you will get through this and you might feel the pain temporarily, but this too, shall pass.

Admit it or not, you two have couple of pretty major problems:

1. You don't find her sexually attractive and you start thinking about your exes and other women.

(shallow or not, this is something you cannot change or control.)

2. She wants kids, and you want to wait.


Be glad that this is over. I don't think either one is wrong here, you are just not very compatible.

[TabulaRasa]

She made the right call. Commitment and compatability were both in doubt.