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Ok, I'm not paying for any more dates because every time I do, something goes wrong. He paid for the first two dates, so I thought it would be nice for me to pay for the third (I'm sure I make more money than him, but either way, I wanted to offer to pay for something). I thought the date last night seemed to be going well (I guess it wasn't though) and I thought he might go in for a kiss at the end of the date, but he didn't. So I awkwardly hinted that he could kiss me goodnight and he gave me a little innocent kiss on the lips. Then a few minutes after I went inside my house, he texted me saying that I was hard to read, he didn't know if I wanted to see him again, he didn't think I wanted him to kiss me, and he didn't think we clicked like that. Despite me telling him that I did have fun and I enjoyed spending time with him, I didn't hear anything back from him after that. So I texted him today and I was like, "Ok, it was nice meeting you" and a few hours later, he said "It was great meeting you too and good luck." I mean, it's fine if he's not interested, but I just think it's weird that it happened right after I paid for the date. So I'm never offering to pay again. lol
I doubt that you paying for the date was the reason. He just didn't click with you.
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I don't know....It doesn't sound like this is about you paying the check. I think maybe he just thinks you are kind of cold, I don't know...hinting maybe he "could" kiss you? He was probably insulted so this third try was his last.
I don't know....It doesn't sound like this is about you paying the check. I think maybe he just thinks you are kind of cold, I don't know...hinting maybe he "could" kiss you? He was probably insulted so this third try was his last.
Just my guess. Most people want some passion.
Those aren't the words I used. It's true that I'm not a naturally flirty person and neither is he, but I assumed that since we were hanging out on a Saturday night and we had gone out three times that maybe he wanted to kiss me goodnight (and I would've been ok with that). I mean, why would I go out with someone three times, spend my Saturday night with them, pay for the date, and encourage him to kiss me goodnight if I wasn't interested at all? And I assumed that he wouldn't have gone out with me three times either if he wasn't interested at all. So despite us both maybe being a little socially awkward, it was still weird to me.
Those aren't the words I used. It's true that I'm not a naturally flirty person and neither is he, but I assumed that since we were hanging out on a Saturday night and we had gone out three times that maybe he wanted to kiss me goodnight (and I would've been ok with that). I mean, why would I go out with someone three times, spend my Saturday night with them, pay for the date, and encourage him to kiss me goodnight if I wasn't interested at all? And I assumed that he wouldn't have gone out with me three times either if he wasn't interested at all. So despite us both maybe being a little socially awkward, it was still weird to me.
Your wording is.... maybe indicative of the vibe he got? "I would've been ok" as opposed to "I wanted him."
A kiss is generally something that occurs organically, and after things like eye contact, hand holding, touching during conversation, and stuff like that.
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He just didn't click with you. Paying for the date or not wouldn't have made a difference.
I just don't like the way he's acting like I'm the reason why we didn't click. I feel like I gave him the same interest signals that he gave me. No more, no less. If he just wasn't interested, there's no point in telling me that I'm hard to read and he can't tell if I want to see him again and it didn't seem like I wanted him to kiss me.
Some women say they pay for a date to let the guy know they don't want to "owe" him anything, or so they don't feel like they're leading him on.
I offer to pay, at least for myself anyway, and if I do, I've gotten that weird vibe at least once that it seems like he's confused now, as if it's a role reversal and he doesn't know if I like him. I've even been told: "I have a job." So it all depends on the guy.
If he really liked you, and letting you pay added to his confusion, well...you don't want that kind of guessing game anyway.
AND after 3 dates if he hasn't kissed you, just kiss him! That kiss sucked. Good riddance, right?
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