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...is the pool of people changes a bit but there's been many instances I've seen the same people on there months later. Just an interesting observation. Like revolving doors.
Granted I've been using apps in my city the past year and took a brief break but I have seen several women I talked to, were interested in, etc that came back.
...is the pool of people changes a bit but there's been many instances I've seen the same people on there months later. Just an interesting observation. Like revolving doors.
Granted I've been using apps in my city the past year and took a brief break but I have seen several women I talked to, were interested in, etc that came back.
It seriously makes me question the effectiveness of online dating as a whole.
I don’t see why it should. It works for some people and not for others. My coworker married the first guy who she ever met from a dating site but had she not met him, she could’ve been on and off the sites for who knows how long? Then you have people who may have gotten into relationships via other means and then they later return to the dating sites, so that isn’t the dating site’s fault that their relationship didn’t work out.
Well, for the average person, it's going to take way longer than three months to find a life mate, you know? I don't think this is unusual. If it took us all three months or less, everybody would be hooked up.
Also, people break up. The first person you date may not be the person you marry. The first 10 people you date may not contain the first person you marry.
In bigger cities you have more options. So you have the daters who are serial daters who never really settle down because they have so many different options. Also, yes, people see each other, break up, etc.
I don’t see why it should. It works for some people and not for others. My coworker married the first guy who she ever met from a dating site but had she not met him, she could’ve been on and off the sites for who knows how long? Then you have people who may have gotten into relationships via other means and then they later return to the dating sites, so that isn’t the dating site’s fault that their relationship didn’t work out.
It's just modern culture and the problem of a lot of choices. It's like people get GIGS (grass is greener syndrome) on a higher level with online dating. I could be borderline venting here lol.
I've only seen one of my friends get married off a dating app and they were culturally very similar, being Indian, and both wanted something serious. Another friend started a relationship from it but not without it's problems which result from multiple matches and attention.
I'm also in a big city so I may have a different perspective as well.
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Originally Posted by sonnymarkjiz
In bigger cities you have more options. So you have the daters who are serial daters who never really settle down because they have so many different options. Also, yes, people see each other, break up, etc.
I suspect many people are like me ... they casually date, might meet someone and enter a relationship, don't deactivate or "hide" themselves from the app (it never occurs to them), break up (or not), maybe start using the app again (or not). Just because someone's profile might have been on the site for a while doesn't mean they were "active" that whole time; and also some people just like to casually date, so why wouldn't they be on the site long term?
I've had guys on Tinder ask me how long I've been on the app, and when I tell them they say something like, "Wow, a long time..." which is odd to me. First, less than two years isn't long, and second, I haven't been an active user that whole time...I've been in relationships on and off from day 1. Do people think people meet someone, then get off the app forever, never to return?
It seriously makes me question the effectiveness of online dating as a whole.
It happens in real life, too, but the difference is, that IRL it's not up for display on a community board. People date, think they've found someone interesting, pair off for a few months, maybe longer, it doesn't work out, so they're back in circulation. Maybe you noticed something similar happening in HS or college?
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