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He dropped out of college and flunked a professional driving test. He’s struggling.
I think it’s time you step into the 21st century. Men don’t have to be the primary bread winners anymore. If you strip gender out of the situation, the custom used to be that the person earning less money followed the one with better employment opportunities.
It doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person, it simply means he needs to be more supportive of your family’s long term interests. If you can find a better job, go for it.
He dropped out of college and flunked a professional driving test. He’s struggling.
I think it’s time you step into the 21st century. Men don’t have to be the primary bread winners anymore. If you strip gender out of the situation, the custom used to be that the person earning less money followed the one with better employment opportunities.
It doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person, it simply means he needs to be more supportive of your family’s long term interests. If you can find a better job, go for it.
He seems to need a major adjustment in perspective, in order to understand this, though, and he's not willing to discuss it at all with the OP. That's the concerning part.
We have the makings of a big-ly power struggle here. The husband doesn't want to move closer to your family because of your big new job because he sees it as you controlling the terms of the relationship. He'd rather struggle and do things his way. The OP may not be able to see this because she lacks life experience and/or the ability to see the big picture.
The husband doesn't want to move closer to your family because of your big new job because he sees it as you controlling the terms of the relationship. He'd rather struggle and do things his way.
Sounds like he was a sucker for getting married to you.
HE should have seen it coming.
You have already after only 2 years are completely disregarding your husband.
You're on the verge of take the child, leaving, and of course blame him for it all.
With all stories there are two sides. You're only here to get approval for what you are doing.
Enjoy your life as a single mom raising your child collecting child support all while blaming your failures on your soon to be ex husband.
I'll see you on online dating format bitter and angry with the rest in no time I'm sure.
He hasn't given her much choice, because he refuses to discuss it. What's she supposed to do? Whether she goes, or stays, she's stuck with a guy who won't talk to her, and who, for some reason, feels the need to have 3 jobs at once. (Avoiding the marriage, perhaps?)
He dropped out of college and flunked a professional driving test. He’s struggling.
I think it’s time you step into the 21st century. Men don’t have to be the primary bread winners anymore. If you strip gender out of the situation, the custom used to be that the person earning less money followed the one with better employment opportunities.
It doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person, it simply means he needs to be more supportive of your family’s long term interests. If you can find a better job, go for it.
He dropped out of college and flunked a professional driving test. He’s struggling.
I think it’s time you step into the 21st century. Men don’t have to be the primary bread winners anymore. If you strip gender out of the situation, the custom used to be that the person earning less money followed the one with better employment opportunities.
It doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person, it simply means he needs to be more supportive of your family’s long term interests. If you can find a better job, go for it.
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Originally Posted by Jilly9244
1. Don’t even think about divorce
2. Make arrangements just you and him for the weekend to reconnect and talk about the future.
3. Pride is ridiculous. It will leave you broke, evicted and divorced. Take the help!
Thank you so much. My husband and I had a really long much needed talk and we have came up with a solution and we are working things out. We are taking a vacation in 2 weeks.
I like that. Plan a getaway to destress, and re-bond. Hopefully, he wouldn't interpret that as pressure to "perform", or wouldn't read other things into it.
OP? Still around?
We are going on a vacation next month. Thanks for the encouragement!
We are going on a vacation next month. Thanks for the encouragement!
Are you still going to try for that job, to at least have the option, while you work things out with your SO? You can always turn it down, if they offer it.
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