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Old 04-25-2018, 12:45 PM
 
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OP - it sounds like you handled it just fine. There's nothing wrong with saying you're seeing someone.

You mentioned that he might start asking how it's going with the guy you're "dating". It's best to just be vague and say it's going - fine. Someone's personal life is really no one business, especially in the workplace.
Yeah, you’re right. Maybe I sometimes share more than I should.
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Old 04-25-2018, 12:48 PM
 
Location: The Jerz (NJ)
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Her daughter sleeps in bed with her.

I don’t mind the affection tbh..I kinda crave it..not like I’m getting it from anyone else..

Maybe I could have gotten more who knows but I didn’t feel the need to try.
that's weird.
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Old 04-25-2018, 12:50 PM
 
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My ex girlfriend is a coworker but from another department, thank God I never saw her again.
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Old 04-25-2018, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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that's weird.
... and not at all relevant to the OP.
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Old 04-25-2018, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Endless Concert
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Yeah, you’re right. Maybe I sometimes share more than I should.
Well that can happen in a friendly chat with a coworker, just keep it brief and remember to set boundaries and limits.
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Old 04-25-2018, 03:03 PM
 
Location: The Jerz (NJ)
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... and not at all relevant to the OP.
neither was this post or the post I was referring to. Curious why you had to point that out. Oh well, back to the topic at hand....

There isn't one right or wrong way to say/do things when it comes to human interactions. I don't think Sweet could have prevented him from asking her out without being severely cold. So he asked her to coffee and she made it sound like she wasn't available. While I might not have lied, I don't think she led him on or was wrong in declining. We like who we like, and we like like who we like like.
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Old 04-25-2018, 03:12 PM
 
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neither was this post or the post I was referring to. Curious why you had to point that out. Oh well, back to the topic at hand....

There isn't one right or wrong way to say/do things when it comes to human interactions. I don't think Sweet could have prevented him from asking her out without being severely cold. So he asked her to coffee and she made it sound like she wasn't available. While I might not have lied, I don't think she led him on or was wrong in declining. We like who we like, and we like like who we like like.
Thanks! So you would’ve just said “Thanks, but I’m not interested” and left it at that? Even if he followed up with “Why not?”
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Old 04-25-2018, 03:20 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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The only mistake you made is answering the “why not” question. People aren’t entitled to a reason why you aren’t interested. One girl pulled that on me a few weeks ago when I rejected her for a drink, I just said don’t feel like it. She got so PO’d it was funny.
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Old 04-25-2018, 03:41 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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The only mistake you made is answering the “why not” question. People aren’t entitled to a reason why you aren’t interested. One girl pulled that on me a few weeks ago when I rejected her for a drink, I just said don’t feel like it. She got so PO’d it was funny.
That rubbed me the wrong way, too. That's presumptuous, to demand a reason why you "can't make it". It's bad form. OTOH, it does eliminate the issue of repeated attempts to ask you out in the future, hoping you'll be available.Still, it's rude.
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Old 04-25-2018, 03:48 PM
 
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neither was this post or the post I was referring to. Curious why you had to point that out. Oh well, back to the topic at hand....

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She doesn’t like me so she’s looking to complain.
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