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We said to call on the weekend and immediately after he is back he said he wants to see me.
I mean, his general demeanor is quite confusing and its not very clear what he wants.
Shall I try to make him subtly confess if he wants only sex?
Through conversation when we meet face to face
He doesn't know, yet, what he wants after just 4 dates.
And yes, he definitely wants sex. Probably just that.
Most likely now, on his vacation, he is getting plenty of it. No time to waste, and sext you.
Be thankful Timber, that he is only away for the week.There'd be 6 or 8 more threads asking the same questions that only he can answer if he was going to be gone a month
Be thankful Timber, that he is only away for the week.There'd be 6 or 8 more threads asking the same questions that only he can answer if he was going to be gone a month
We said to call on the weekend and immediately after he is back he said he wants to see me.
I mean, his general demeanor is quite confusing and its not very clear what he wants.
Shall I try to make him subtly confess if he wants only sex?
Through conversation when we meet face to face
OP, I think we've already concluded from your other thread, that he cannot be trusted, in other words, he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear. That's why you're confused; he's not being honest. One moment, he says he wants to take things slowly, the next moment, he wants to take you away on a weekend trip, and yet another moment, he says he's bored with his life, and wants excitement, and asks if you are "up to the challenge". This, plus sex talk at various times (in spite of his saying he wants to take things slowly).
All this, on a background of having seen each other only 4 times.
And the whole thing about wanting to "make you happy" is odd. It's as if he's already talking about a long future together, which is clearly inappropriate (as you gently pointed out to him, but he missed the point), and he's stating that as your partner, his mission in life (he claims) would be to make you happy.
That is way over the top. It's as if he's spouting romantic lines he learned from films, because he thinks this is what wins women over. Yet you're only in the beginning stage of getting to know each other. You're not getting engaged; you're only trying to become acquainted with each other. Yet already (supposedly), he wants to dedicate himself to making you happy.
How did you meet this guy? I think you like the attention, so you've become a little bit attached to the attention, but his talk isn't making sense, and in some ways, he's contradicting himself in his attempts to impress you, so you're confused. He's trying to move too fast, while pretending to want to "take things slowly".
You need to let this one go. For your own peace of mind. If there's this much confusion (and dishonesty, and subtle pushiness) at this early stage, it's a warning sign, IMO. Things will not improve. You'll probably end up compromising yourself, and then regretting it, and he will move on to someone else, and then how will you feel?
News flash: some men will say one thing, while intending to do something very differently, just to get what they want out of a woman. This is the man you're dealing with. Believe it, and work on finding someone else.
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