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it is very selfish to be mentally ill and wanting children. You only want children so you are not alone. But since bipolar runs in your family AND your bfs, chances are high your children will have it. You are barely able to take care of yourself, please do not put a helpless baby in such an environment.
Be happy with your bf, enjoy what you have with him. It is tough to be mentally ill and date - he accepts you the way you are, why not leave it at that?
Not everyone who can have children should have some. Leave the childbearing to mentally healthy people who can offer the child a stable environment and future. Your posting history shows you are all over the place, you shouldn't even think of adding children to the mix. Find some friends, hobbies, ...
Exactly. Just because you're biologically able to create another human life doesn't mean that it's a good idea to do so.
it is very selfish to be mentally ill and wanting children. You only want children so you are not alone. But since bipolar runs in your family AND your bfs, chances are high your children will have it. You are barely able to take care of yourself, please do not put a helpless baby in such an environment.
Be happy with your bf, enjoy what you have with him. It is tough to be mentally ill and date - he accepts you the way you are, why not leave it at that?
Not everyone who can have children should have some. Leave the childbearing to mentally healthy people who can offer the child a stable environment and future. Your posting history shows you are all over the place, you shouldn't even think of adding children to the mix. Find some friends, hobbies, ...
Not to go OT, but part of the above post almost sounds like a case for borderline-eugenics and social Darwinism... I politely and respectfully disagree...that's a very slippery slope and I would wonder what would be the next step; for example saying a person with physical disabilities or who is in a wheelchair, etc. shouldn't ever have kids as well?
Probably best to move-on...........he definitely does not want kids and it sounds like you do.
After reading past the OP's first couple of posts, it becomes clear that she's conflicted about the whole issue. She doesn't know if she wants kids. She does, but she has concerns. His talk about a vasectomy has caused some serious reflection and soul-searching on the OP's part, a process that's far from complete, at this point.
She's learning about the medication she's taking, waiting to evaluate its effect on her, and looking into the science on how it might, or might not, affect a baby she'd be carrying; she's exploring whether being bipolar (albeit medicated as effectively as possible) might adversely affect a child's upbringing and emotional growth, and so forth. These are very worthy questions to explore.
in the meantime, she has a (-n apparently, so far--) great guy, who's ok with providing support for her, as she struggles to manage her condition. IMO the answer is far from clear as to what her decision should be, regarding her current dating interest. Plus, she also wisely pointed out that they don't even know each other that well, anyway, having only dated for 2 months.
So, it's all up in the air, at this point. Stay tuned for further developments.
Not to go OT, but part of the above post almost sounds like a case for borderline-eugenics and social Darwinism... I politely and respectfully disagree...that's a very slippery slope and I would wonder what would be the next step; for example saying a person with physical disabilities or who is in a wheelchair, etc. shouldn't ever have kids as well?
no slippery slope at all nor any NEXT steps. So hold your horses.
Just because he doesn't want kids and is honest about it, he is a jackass?
you got some quality answers in this thread. Now a bunch of weird people move in with over the top comments.
you can ask the moderators to close the thread if you have decided on your problem.
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I politely and respectfully disagree...that's a very slippery slope and I would wonder what would be the next step; for example saying a person with physical disabilities or who is in a wheelchair, etc. shouldn't ever have kids as well?
