Getting him to put in the work (man, ugly, friends)
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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by ComeCloser
Being coy and flirtacious is not pretending you are uninterested. Showing someone you are not easy, and cant be had on a whim isn't pretending to be unavailable.
Maybe that was the case in the 70's, but reading what guys on this forum write, they cant even be asked to ask you out more than once. Suffice it to say that if they represent the typical mindset of men today you don't have to worry about that 70s reasoning at all.
Honestly, if you are interested why the hell would I need to ask you out more than once? Way it is today, if a woman says no once, that is all I need to hear to back off. I’m not risking a metoo harassment moment.
Anybody who you make ''Work for it'' who has enough sense is gonna wash their hands of the situation and find someone that isn't into playing these kinds of games and wasting their time, energy and expenditure of calories.
Anyone who follows that philosophy and doesn't just go out with me and makes me work for it before agreeing to go out with me? You could rest assure that I'd give up long before that. Only someone in a scarcity mindset, who thinks it's the last person on earth that they ever have a chance of dating would be insane enough to stick around for that. Anyone who puts me through that to try and prove my worth is someone that would make me think they're really not that interested. And when they're really not that interested? I don't waste anymore. I get out of the situation.
It is human nature to value the things that you have to make efforts for - whether it is to get into a fraternity, or to get a date. Of course it is a matter of degree... but let's say the woman really did have another committment on the first time that you asked about going out - would you say "games!" and not try another time? I'd say good riddance if you cared so little.
Honestly, if you are interested why the hell would I need to ask you out more than once? Way it is today, if a woman says no once, that is all I need to hear to back off. I’m not risking a metoo harassment moment.
In the immortal words of Fergie (LOL!), "...I aint easy, I aint sleazy! Boys just come and go like seasons...I'm Fergalicious...but I ant promiscuous and if you was suspicious, all that crap is fictitious, I blow kisses..."
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
26,700 posts, read 41,710,416 times
Reputation: 41376
Quote:
Originally Posted by ComeCloser
In the immortal words of Fergie (LOL!), "...I aint easy, I aint sleazy! Boys just come and go like seasons...I'm Fergalicious...but I ant promiscuous and if you was suspicious, all that crap is fictitious, I blow kisses..."
Can you interpret that? I don’t speak whatever language mediocre white female wannabe rappers like Chanel West Coast, Iggy azelea, and Fergie speak.
Whatever, any woman who would even consider playing a game like this, I’m far better off without. Admittedly, I’m a serious no BS guy, probably to the excess but I don’t play games.
Can you interpret that? I don’t speak whatever language mediocre white female wannabe rappers like Chanel West Coast, Iggy azelea, and Fergie speak.
Whatever, any woman who would even consider playing a game like this, I’m far better off without. Admittedly, I’m a serious no BS guy, probably to the excess but I don’t play games.
Its true. You save plenty of money being without.
Last edited by ComeCloser; 06-10-2018 at 12:44 PM..
Thank you gals and guys for all your response. I think too being honest and sincere toward the other person is the best in relationship. I am thinking that if I have say "no" before and the guy in persistent, then he does not respect what I am telling him and perhaps question his listening skill as a man .
I'm not sure what kind of a community you live in, but in my world, if you see someone really attractive and fun looking in the produce aisle, and he approaches you to go to, say, the starbucks next door for a quick coffee after shopping, you better do it then or never.
The chances of running into him again are about nil. Missed opportunity, as they say on Craigs List.
And by the way, this notion that nice girls fake being uninterested is what's at the crux of the problem of men not taking "no" for an answer when you're making out. Because girls have been taught to say no a few times and make him work for it. And they expect him to continue trying.
And we all know where that ends. Sometimes in the courtroom.
Because there are other girls, who when they say no, expect the guy to stop, not simply try harder. Confusing.
Find me a case that made it to the courtroom based ONLY on a couple verbal requests for a date - not involving the workplace, profanity, obscenity, groping/assault. I want to see it.
Honestly, if you are interested why the hell would I need to ask you out more than once? Way it is today, if a woman says no once, that is all I need to hear to back off. I’m not risking a metoo harassment moment.
Me too, and pardon the allusion.
If a woman says "no" to me it means "no I am not interested in you, not now, not ever." I give up because I am already embarrassed in thinking that such a pretty woman would go out with a man of my ilk.
I'll go home all butt hurt but I'd realize it's over, just over.
Try that stuff on me and any woman is going to wonder why I never asked her again, not even if I see her again. We already got a history babe. You said "no" and I'm not going to embarrass myself twice.
If the latter should ever happen, the woman is going to have to come up to me and tell me she's sorry she treated me that way before and wishes she had said yes. If that happens then yes, maybe we do have a future.'
But the next move after "no" is your move babe.
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