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Personally, I think I should've been born in the 40s and 50s where back then, that was kind of a happy medium between the era you spoke of and now. Back then, there was no game playing, people were clear in what they wanted, and didn't partake in any kind of hook-up culture that we do today.
Today, it's an era of nebulous relationships or "situationships" where people are coming up with their own definition of what a relationship entails. FWB, you name it.
You are wrong, .they have plenty of options. With the population exploding like it is, people are still getting together. It's just that a lot of women's expectations are unrealistic. I.e. - "I won't date a guy under 6 feet (even though she's only 5'3") ...receding hairline? out of the running. Big nose...get that schnoze outta here!
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Now you're just making things up. If women were so set against receding hairlines. over half the women in the country would be single most of their lives. Or they'd have to take turns being married to the minority of guys who have a full head of hear throughout their life. Schnoz guys and guys under 5'10" also find partners, get married, and beget more schnoz guys and below 5'10" guys.
Back in the 40's and 50's, you'd have had to provide for the entire family. All that responsibility would be on your shoulders. As likely as not, you'd have to spend 30 years at a job you hate. If the company you worked for went under, there would be no second income in the family to tide you over.
There have always been hookup cultures. In the Victorian era, all a hookup-minded gentleman had to do, was make direct eye contact with a woman he fancied when passing on the street, or anywhere else, and if she met and held his gaze, they'd go off together. No words exchanged. And do you think there were no hookups happening during the Roaring Twenties? Think again. And colleges have always been centers of hookup culture--an escape from the strictures of conservative home environments throughout the first half of the 20th Century, until the 60's "Free Love" movement started loosening up the norms of behavior.
What do you mean by "include myself with these women"? Are you implying that I'm chubby too?
No, i'm not. "Being chubby" isn't the point. Your comment reveals that you STILL obviously view all chubby women with disdain, leveling yourself above them, when you constantly rail on here about other women who won't give YOU a chance based on your own appearance.
It's hypocritical. You're doing the very same thing you complain about women doing to you.
Now you're just making things up. If women were so set against receding hairlines. over half the women in the country would be single most of their lives. Or they'd have to take turns being married to the minority of guys who have a full head of hear throughout their life. Schnoz guys and guys under 5'10" also find partners, get married, and beget more schnoz guys and below 5'10" guys.
Sure it happens, but chances are they settled and had realistic standards, the left over unmarried women over 40 probably passed those guys up, while the women you speak of smartened up and settled on those under 5'10". Believe you me, I've run into over 40, never married, no kids women that have these long lists of unrealistic standards and they continue to be permanent fixtures of dating sites as I would see them all the time.
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Back in the 40's and 50's, you'd have had to provide for the entire family. All that responsibility would be on your shoulders. As likely as not, you'd have to spend 30 years at a job you hate. If the company you worked for went under, there would be no second income in the family to tide you over.
So your'e saying even all these women wound up with unattractive men when they married them to serve the purpose of being a house wife and mother?
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There have always been hookup cultures.
Not to the extent to how it is today. That was just as small segment of society. Now you can throw a rock into a sea of people and still have very little chance of hitting someone that doesn't partake in hooking up.
In the Victorian era, all a hookup-minded gentleman had to do, was make direct eye contact with a woman he fancied when passing on the street, or anywhere else, and if she met and held his gaze, they'd go off together. No words exchanged. And do you think there were no hookups happening during the Roaring Twenties? Think again. And colleges have always been centers of hookup culture--an escape from the strictures of conservative home environments throughout the first half of the 20th Century, until the 60's "Free Love" movement started loosening up the norms of behavior.[/quote]
No, i'm not. "Being chubby" isn't the point. Your comment reveals that you STILL obviously view all chubby women with disdain, leveling yourself above them, when you constantly rail on here about other women who won't give YOU a chance based on your own appearance.
It's hypocritical. You're doing the very same thing you complain about women doing to you.
You are misinterpreting my words. You saying that I'm viewing them with "disdain" is very wrong. I am one to realize the imperfections that people have and can look past them regardless...as I consider the whole package.
You are misinterpreting my words. You saying that I'm viewing them with "disdain" is very wrong. I am one to realize the imperfections that people have and can look past them regardless...as I consider the whole package.
No, I'm not.
You've left SO many words here on CD that it would be very difficult to "misinterpret" them.
Here they are again:
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Speaking of the 9% fat, I've been turned down by chubby women of all people. (Yes, I have found some chubby women attractive) So here we have women that expect men who have 9% fat, but cannot offer the same in return in that department.
It's pretty hard to misinterpret, "I've been turned down by chubby women, of all people."
OF ALL PEOPLE
You're basically saying they are the bottom of the barrel, that "chubby women" as a group should be bowing at your feet to date you, which is a very clear statement of how you compare yourself to "them."
Sure it happens, but chances are they settled and had realistic standards, the left over unmarried women over 40 probably passed those guys up, while the women you speak of smartened up and settled on those under 5'10". Believe you me, I've run into over 40, never married, no kids women that have these long lists of unrealistic standards and they continue to be permanent fixtures of dating sites as I would see them all the time.
Try to conceive of the possibility that the women with the not-tall guys, and the schnoz guys, didn't "settle". They had a broader definition of "attractive" than you do. They went for the winning personality, or the steady guy with family-man potential, or whatever their individual priority and interest was. I've seen college women get goofy over nerdy-looking guys who didn't stand out in any way, but something about them really touched these women individually.
Contrary to what many bro blogs would have you believe, humans don't all think alike, they're not all motivated by the same things, they have widely differing psychologies, which is what accounts for the vast difference in what people find attractive. It's not about "settling", or "getting realistic". I realize these basic facts about human diversity have revolutionary implications for some of you guys, who prefer fixed formulas and predictability, but that's life. That's reality.
Try to conceive of the possibility that the women with the not-tall guys, and the schnoz guys, didn't "settle".
Exactly. Maybe they fell in love with someone despite the fact that he had a big nose or was chubby (or because of it!!!), which is exactly what ThisTown keeps complaining that he wants women to do in HIS case.
So your'e saying even all these women wound up with unattractive men when they married them to serve the purpose of being a house wife and mother?
What? I'm not following you.
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