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View Poll Results: Women, how often are you hit on?
Every day, at least once 10 14.29%
Several times a week 6 8.57%
Several times a month 14 20.00%
A few times a year 13 18.57%
It's been so long, I don't remember 19 27.14%
I never notice 8 11.43%
Voters: 70. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 07-15-2018, 04:20 PM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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No one ever claimed that this poll was at all scientific, it was just a fun exercise to prove to you guys who insist that women get hit on every day, all the time that it's not true.

Most women are not hot party girls under the age of 30. Many women are not looking for casual sex with strangers. Assuming that what is true for this small subset of women represents the experience of *all* women is just wrong. And it demonstrates how many men have blinders on for a significant population of women whose experience is vastly different than the porny fantasy they've concocted in their minds.
i think the jealousy comes from that most relationships start by the man asking the woman out.
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Old 07-16-2018, 09:05 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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No, all guys don't. Some are so shy, or so convinced no woman would be interested, that they don't hit on anyone. Romances develop in those cases, because the women hit the guys over the head, or some wingman/best friend manages to corral someone for the guy.
Yep.

As I've said...my boyfriend did initiate the conversation, which is good since he wasn't the kind of man who stands out in the world. He sort of blends in if you don't know him. He did need to do something to get my attention, get us started interacting.

But then like 2 months went by, and I was trying to green light the dude to make his move and no moves were made, so I had to straight up Captain Caaaavemaaaaann and hit him over the head with it.
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Old 07-16-2018, 09:42 AM
 
Location: New Yawk
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I don't know if I'd call it being "hit on", maybe a little flirtation now and then. I really don't stand out enough to be hit on or asked out by random people. Not sure if I'd really want to be, either.
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Old 07-16-2018, 09:44 AM
 
Location: New Yawk
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No, all guys don't. Some are so shy, or so convinced no woman would be interested, that they don't hit on anyone. Romances develop in those cases, because the women hit the guys over the head, or some wingman/best friend manages to corral someone for the guy.
Yup. If I hadn't informed him that he was going to go out with me, I'd probably still be here waiting, 20 years later, for Mr.Ginge to ask me out.
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Old 07-16-2018, 09:51 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Yup. If I hadn't informed him that he was going to go out with me, I'd probably still be here waiting, 20 years later, for Mr.Ginge to ask me out.
And I bet that Mr. Ginge is a very happy camper, as a result of that! . Those guys usually are pretty thrilled, that someone took an interest in them, and swooped down on them.
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Old 07-18-2018, 12:53 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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It’s been years, not that I was really hit on all that much to begin with unless I was at a club or bar and these days if I’m at one of those, I’m by my husband’s side.

Now that I think about it, i guess some guy tried to get my attention at a bar when I went out with some girlfriends. I had no clue and didn’t hear him. My friend wanted to know if I knew the guy because he was saying hi and trying to get my attention. I had no clue and was oblivious to the fact that he was speaking to me.
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Old 07-20-2018, 03:58 PM
 
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
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So, I have just been hit on! I had to tell her as gently as I could that I wasn't available - I didn't realise where it was going at first. She was quite disappointed.

It made me realize the 'anxiety' some of us go through in approaching women. The risk of being disappointed is quite real, specially when we are attracted to the person we approach. I like to think a lady being approached takes it as a compliment even though she is not available or simply just not interested.

P.S. I realise the OP question was directed a women and not men.
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Old 07-20-2018, 05:00 PM
 
Location: Nevada
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I kind of got a vibe that a man on social media might have some interest in me.

Rather than make things awkward when he sent a friend request, I accepted it. My profile says I am in a relationship.

Maybe I was reading too much into the online interactions. If so, new friend. If my vibe was right, he should be put off the trail now.
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Old 07-23-2018, 02:15 PM
 
Location: Nevada
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I kind of got a vibe that a man on social media might have some interest in me.

Rather than make things awkward when he sent a friend request, I accepted it. My profile says I am in a relationship.

Maybe I was reading too much into the online interactions. If so, new friend. If my vibe was right, he should be put off the trail now.
Nope, he started liking my posts a bit too much and blowing up my messages.

But I kindly set him straight.
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Old 07-24-2018, 07:51 AM
 
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I was finally approached in a grocery store yesterday, but I’m not sure it counts because it was some guy who recognized me from work. I was not wearing makeup or attractive clothing because it was only supposed to be a 10 minute grocery store run. I thought he looked a little familiar, so I tried to walk by quickly without making eye contact but he stops me anyway and goes, “Hi! Do you work at (insert company here)?” so I said, “Yes, do you?” He tells me his name and shakes my hand, so I had to tell him my name too and then I went about my business. We don’t actually work together. He’s just seen me in the building.
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