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When it comes to finding a woman your age, how important is it that she has a good job/career? By that I mean, say you were single and met a woman that was pretty, in good shape, fun to be around, nice etc. however say she had never gotten a college education and was working at some very menial job, say burger flipper at McDonald's or the like. Would you be okay with it, or would it be a deal breaker?
That said, I think that I may not have much in common with a McD's burger flipper. I've had a successful career and am now retired so I think I'd have better conversations with someone that had been a little more ambitious in theirs.
I would not automatically rule out someone with a low level job though until I got to know them. I don't think someone's job defines them as a person. I would not want to be with someone that was not able to keep up with their bills or lived beyond their means regardless of how much they make.
Over 40 but married for just about half my life... if she were to die, I wouldn't be looking, at all, ever again. So I can't say for sure, but I get the feeling that (as stated already) I'd be unhappy with anyone who didn't seek anything more from life than a McJob.
It really depends on personal preference. Many people prioritize a partner being what they consider to be a professional and educational equal.
My husband and I married at 37 and 41. We have comparable educational levels and similar professional roles and aspirations. We're compatible in many other ways as well.
One of our good friends is 41, and about two years ago, his longtime marriage ended due to mutual desire to part ways. He is a Chief Petty Officer in the Navy, now a reservist, and also has his Juris Doctor and is a practicing attorney. His ex-wife was similarly educated, and professionally similar to him. His new girlfriend, on the other hand, is a server at a restaurant. They seem to be pretty happy, which is something that definitely wouldn't describe his latter years of marriage. Whatever works.
If you're over 40 and flipping burgers at McDonalds, you've made a lot of really poor life decisions, assuming of course that you're not cognitively disabled.
I just thought of another case that would apply here. A friend's sister was married to a great guy. He had a very successful business and they lived in a beautiful house. Then things went bad in the business and they dumped their savings back into the business to try to keep it afloat. It kept getting worse and he started drinking and doing drugs. I guess he had a drug problem when he was very young but had been sober for like 30 years.
Anyway, he became abusive and they split but not before he pissed away all their money and mortgaged the house which they lost. So at 50 years old she had to take a job as the receptionist at a small business making probably minimum wage.
I'm sure there are other women in similar situations so I wouldn't have a problem dating them.
I'm not a man but in my 30s I dated men up to age 40 and they pretty much all expected me to have a career. I would have actually been a little surprised if they hadn't.
I expect someone to be able to support themselves responsibly, by their own efforts, even if that's minimally. I expect many other things for compatibility, though, so job/income is just one modest factor. If she's young enough to want children, though, I'd expect more from her financially. I'd also expect more if marriage is the goal. Why? Because the chances of breaking up sometime in the future are statistically significant, no matter how much we believe and hope to the contrary, and a low/non-earner would create much greater financial burdens on me that I don't want to be forced into assuming.
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