I've Always Wanted to Know (wife, boyfriend, women, lover)

[BLAZER PROPHET]

This question may get this bounced from the section, but I have always wanted to know something about women. It's about the Big "O".

Needless to say, the Big "O" is always wonderful for almost everyone. However, how important is it? I mean, I've had conversations about it with women before and some say things like, "it's great, but over rated". Others state it's so important they consider it part of their health, along with eating right, not 'letting themselves go', even spiritually- that it it's part of the entire wholistic approach to health along with those other things mentioned. I have also heard women in their late 40's to early 50's state it's becomes more important as they age- some state even despite menopause.

I know it's deeply important to my wife- and we're in our early 50's.

Can this be discussed without getting to "R" rated?

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by BLAZER PROPHET

I have always wanted to know something about women. It's about the Big "O"....Can this be discussed without getting to "R" rated?

Do you mean orgasms? (to the best of my knowledge that word isn't R rated -- it certainly isn't according to the MPAA)

[miu]

The big O to me is just a bodily function. It's always been present in my life, but I never have thought it very important to my wellbeing or happiness. What's way more important to me is my brain being stimulated by intelligent conversation, a good sense of dry humour and having good friends in my life that I can trust with my heart. I like sex, but I can also live without it if my other more important needs are being met.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Originally Posted by professorsenator

Do you mean orgasms? (to the best of my knowledge that word isn't R rated -- it certainly isn't according to the MPAA)

Yeah, but I'm trying to keep this as PG-13 as possible.

[NOEM1226]

The big "O" is nice, however I would not equate its importance up there with eating right, not letting myself go, etc, etc.

As long as I could achieve this occasionally I would be fine, and the most important factor would be a partner who is willing to try. If not, I hate to be so blunt but there are toys designed to assist with this that would meet my needs if an otherwise good man could not.

Not a deal breaker to me, as I feel there are so many other things that outweigh the importance of something I can take care of myself- and WOW this post is very personal, but honest.

But do keep in mind this is coming from a woman whose generation has somewhat adopted the slogan "I don't need a man".
oh and by the way your wife owes you brownie points for even bothering to ask.....

[Pikantari]

I would say it is a very good thing... but not something I would need in order to be healthy.

Not something I would need in order to have a life fulfilled.

Of course... like I said before.... it is a very good thing.

[Timm]

I'm sure the answer to that would differ from woman to woman.
And euphemisms creep me out.

[MainStreet]

The last time I was in a serious relationship, I was winding down from losing 120 lbs over a year. At the time I was exercising 15 mins a day; a sort of self invented yoga where breathing had a major roll.

I found that a few orgasms a week kept me on this momentum of fitness; helped me feel great; like a all systems detox. My ex-bf eventually told me that it was all I thought about (6).

Unfortunately, I can only have one one way. I've not been in a relationship in six years and occasionally have one in my sleep.

The best I've ever felt, health wise was when I had a couple a week. I compare it to one of those pull toys, like a top; pull that whip to keep it going. It did help me maintain my weight.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Originally Posted by MainStreet

The last time I was in a serious relationship, I was winding down from losing 120 lbs over a year. At the time I was exercising 15 mins a day; a sort of self invented yoga where breathing had a major roll.

I found that a few orgasms a week kept me on this momentum of fitness; helped me feel great; like a all systems detox. My ex-bf eventually told me that it was all I thought about (6).

Unfortunately, I can only have one one way. I've not been in a relationship in six years and occasionally have one in my sleep.

The best I've ever felt, health wise was when I had a couple a week. I compare it to one of those pull toys, like a top; pull that whip to keep it going. It did help me maintain my weight.

That's where my wife is at. About 2-3 times per week and she seems to keep her sanity. Fortunately we don't yet have any problems in that area of our relationship.

I guess I'm also a bit surprised how relatively unimportant it is. I guess that's just how guys think about it. To assist a woman reach an O makes us feel manly and therefore it would be a natural tendency to feel a little vain about it from our perspective.

Interesting.

[miu]

Originally Posted by BLAZER PROPHET

I guess I'm also a bit surprised how relatively unimportant it is. I guess that's just how guys think about it. To assist a woman reach an O makes us feel manly and therefore it would be a natural tendency to feel a little vain about it from our perspective.

Interesting.

See... for me, a great boyfriend is a guy who is a combination of being my best friend, confidant, intellectual equal, personal pep squad and of course, lover. And if a man were the best lover in the world and but not any of the other things, I wouldn't want him to be my boyfriend. A relationship is more than just have a steady access to sexual release. If that's all it was, then I'd just keep a vibrator in my nightstand. As it is, sometimes I miss sleeping alone in bed with all of my dogs and cats around me. So on the weekends, I will sneak away to take an afternoon snooze with my pets.

I also don't need having an orgasm to tell my that my body is functioning properly. And what I love more than having sex with my boyfriend is the way he caresses my body and rubs my feet at night. It makes me feel beautiful, loved and cherished.