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1. I don't believe you need to get married just because you want kids. (Sometimes it is a tax penalty!)
2. I believe that marriage is two things: The emotional/spiritual "celebration of love" piece, and the Business Contract piece.
3. I believe that having kids will change your relationship way more than getting married necessarily will.
4. I believe that people should take their time before getting married. Before making that choice, you should know that your partner is trustworthy, a good fit for your values and lifestyle, isn't a crazy spiteful person who will destroy you if you ever get divorced, how they handle stress and process difficult feelings, and if you're compatible sexually. You should know what their financial situation and credit reports are like. You should know about their social needs, and family ties. You should discuss things like estate planning and insurance coverage. Make sure that every part of the bundle you're signing on to spend your life with, is a part you can accept and consent to live with.
Makes sense. A woman with no experience will sometimes settle for bad sex, not knowing any better.
Try him out before buying ladies!
I’m on board with this ^^^^^. Nothing worse than bad sex. Had a gf like that. It was like screwing a fence post and she was built like one too. Actually a fence post would at least squeak and squeal
My thing is
Love isn’t enough to keep a repaltionship together. You need money too.
You can love someone till you’re literally ready to kill for them, but if you’re living in a Frigidaire box and you can’t offer at least the minimum care or service some needs you won’t be together long.
I’m on board with this ^^^^^. Nothing worse than bad sex. Had a gf like that. It was like screwing a fence post and she was built like one too. Actually a fence post would at least squeak and squeal
My thing is
Love isn’t enough to keep a repaltionship together. You need money too.
You can love someone till you’re literally ready to kill for them, but if you’re living in a Frigidaire box and you can’t offer at least the minimum care or service some needs you won’t be together long.
I would tend to agree. It's not money per se but just having enough to where both people aren't stressed out. You can have a great relationship, but if times are tough people tend to get snarly and more annoyed when stressed out.
Money doesn't buy happiness but it sure makes things a little better along the way.
I would tend to agree. It's not money per se but just having enough to where both people aren't stressed out. You can have a great relationship, but if times are tough people tend to get snarly and more annoyed when stressed out.
Money doesn't buy happiness but it sure makes things a little better along the way.
I agree with the enough concept re money. Money doesn't by happiness, but the lack of money buys anxiety.
I hold the unpopular opinion that you do NOT need instant chemistry or sexual attraction in order to go on to have a fulfilling relationship with those things. I see so many people not feel that instant "spark" the moment their internet/blind/whatever date walks into the room and then decide that they will not bother with a second date or even putting much effort into the first one.
Of course, an attraction is important, but few people seem to want to actually get to know someone before they're dreaming about how they'll satisfy them sexually. And of course, a good sex life is important for a relationship, but it's not the only thing. (Unless both of you want it to be the only thing, then carry on.)
I hold the unpopular opinion that you do NOT need instant chemistry or sexual attraction in order to go on to have a fulfilling relationship with those things. I see so many people not feel that instant "spark" the moment their internet/blind/whatever date walks into the room and then decide that they will not bother with a second date or even putting much effort into the first one.
Of course, an attraction is important, but few people seem to want to actually get to know someone before they're dreaming about how they'll satisfy them sexually. And of course, a good sex life is important for a relationship, but it's not the only thing. (Unless both of you want it to be the only thing, then carry on.)
If I told a man there was no spark, it was usually not just a matter of lacking an exciting "wow" enthusiastic sparky feeling...it was because there was like...anti-chemistry. Something about him put me off. It might not be something that would put off any/every woman, but it did for me.
He hit a nope button. I did not even want to think about what it might be like to have sex with him.
No one should be trying to force a second date if they feel that way.
Included in that bundle was a man who had really awful rotten teeth (though otherwise he was a nice dude) and another who was so horribly awkward I was counting the moments until I could escape the date. Sometimes, it's really that bad. "No spark" or "no chemistry" is my nice way of saying no thanks.
And if a guy found something about ME that off-putting? Like, I'm a smoker, so a guy could be repulsed by the smell of smoke on me and I would not even blame him. I sure wouldn't want him trying to force himself to endure another date and see if his mind wouldn't maybe change. I'd be fine with him saying, "I'm not feelin' it. Best of luck."
My unpopular opinion: Have sex early. You can't be with someone long term is the sex is not mind blowing.
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