Did I blow this dinner date? (Latin, alcohol, feelings, interested)
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I'm astounded that a man would schedule a first date sourced from an app on a Saturday night as a restaurant dinner date. This guy sounds like a big dud!
A more dominant, assertive, and in-demand male schedules drinks at a bar on a weeknight starting no earlier than 8 pm. The bar is within walking distance of his apartment or a quick Uber/Lyft ride back to his place.
LOL. That would be a no go for me. Luckily I've run across no men with silly rules.
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Nope, haven’t heard from him. Maybe he’s pursuing his other options that you assume he doesn’t have. lol
The probable outcome at this point is that you won't be hearing back from him.
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Originally Posted by JerZ
She knows whether or not she wants to sleep with you, if you have to try to pull PUA stuff then game's kind of already over, for you. (If immediate pounding is the goal.) And she'll be so turned off by the obvious script that a second chance is doubtful. Again, IF she isn't desperate.
Might be better to just invite people over to one's place of residence then.
Might be better to just invite people over to one's place of residence then.
Might be. Then she can freely say yes or no without the no, we have to be within a few yards of my place Dance of the Incels or pretending you need to see and just happen to have a bottle of wine in your shoe.
I thought this topic was about SLS and a first date of hers. It sounded to me like the date turned out great! She's concerned about her doggy bag but many of we men said it was no big deal, we would just think of it as a doggy bag, not an "f" question!
If I were her date and I thought she was cute and engaging, I'd ask her on a date again soon. (If he doesn't contact SLS that doesn't mean the doggy bag had any meaning.) I would think SLS not out of line to contact him, even if only to chat and visit.
Not sure if she and he met on OLD, but with my OLD dates we often chat on the phone before/after/between dates just to develop our friendship and to explore each other. Our next date is a very often topic of discussion. And food likes or music likes.
My life has been this way since I was 16 or 17!!! The great part is that back then our parents were old and they went to bed at 8 p.m. and let we kids have the phone!!! Back then they had only one phone PER FAMILY! (We were kids then, and didn't realize our parents went to bed early because they wanted to ..... Yes kids, "tired" was a social lie.)
When did modern dating change the concept that he and she would chat on the phone into the hours of the night? And I don't recall who called who now. I think it was both.
The probable outcome at this point is that you won't be hearing back from him.
You don’t say? I assumed that as well. The only thing is that he mentioned that he’s up front with people and sends rejection texts after dates when he’s not interested, but I haven’t received one as of yet.
Wow, I'm learning a lot here. I gotta get out more. I would think the opposite but I do not see what guys see in this type interaction.
I am a fan of the meet-for-coffee the first time so either of us can escape each other if need be. I do really like the side-by-side angle on account of no worries about staring. THAT gets old real quick.
Yes I like the coffee date too. I don’t want a long dinner if I can tell in a few minutes it’s not going to work out.
Yes I like the coffee date too. I don’t want a long dinner if I can tell in a few minutes it’s not going to work out.
Me too, TinaTwo. But, then I feel sooooo bad about leaving the guy too soon because I do not want to hurt his feelings. I am torn between what I want, which is to leave, or sparing the feelings of the guy. The latter always wins. A long dinner would be like dog-minutes or -hours to me, and I don't want to be in that position. I typically know within a short amount of time if there is potential, minutes really.
LOL, it’s ok. I’ll be fine. I don’t particularly think a rejection text is necessary after a first meeting, but that’s what he said he does.
Actually I never heard of a rejection text. I guess it's like the letter I used to get after a job interview, telling me I didn't get the job. "But we'll keep your resume on file in case a suitable opening should occur."
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Yes I like the coffee date too. I don’t want a long dinner if I can tell in a few minutes it’s not going to work out.
Maybe I need more "few minute" women. It usually costs me about $100 for dinner and drinks. You'd be a money saver. And I wouldn't have to analyze your doggy bag.
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Me too, TinaTwo. But, then I feel sooooo bad about leaving the guy too soon because I do not want to hurt his feelings. I am torn between what I want, which is to leave, or sparing the feelings of the guy. The latter always wins. A long dinner would be like dog-minutes or -hours to me, and I don't want to be in that position. I typically know within a short amount of time if there is potential, minutes really.
Oh please! I'm a man and I'm not going to get all butt hurt if you don't like me upon sight. Maybe I should go for drinks first, and then we won't both have to pretend we're going to the bathroom before we sneak out!
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