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There is a big difference between meeting for dinner or drinks and taking/being taken out. It doesn't just apply to dating. If I meet my brother for drinks, we either pay for our own or we take turns paying. If I take him out to eat to celebrate something, I pay.
I feel it is rude not to pay if you specifically ask someone out, whether it is a friend, colleague, family member, or date.
If you like traditions and support gender roles I suppose you enjoy going to his place to cook, wash dishes, do his laundry, etc. I mean, its all about gender roles that others may consider sexist, right?
I don't mind making meals but no housework until AFTER marriage and he also agrees to having a cleaning lady do certain tasks a few times a month.
I don't mind making meals but no housework until AFTER marriage and he also agrees to having a cleaning lady do certain tasks a few times a month.
This pretty much sounds traditional to me, down to the letter.
There's no Western dating tradition that I know of where the girlfriend went to the boyfriend's house several times a week to clean. Or even once a week to clean.
After marriage women would clean their own homes, generally, but "bigger" tasks involved either a gathering of female family members, or "hiring out."
Even the decidedly poor Mr. and Mrs. Wilder from the Laura Ingalls Wilder books had "a girl" come to wash the windows in their new home after their marriage because Laura hated that particular chore and it was very difficult to do alone on top of everything else.
That’s right. If any adult independent adult woman can afford to spend money on expensive shoes, bags, pay her rent, etc. I don’t see how she would still expect a man to take her of her expenses simply because the man makes more than her or just because he is a man. Like I said, when I go out with friends (male and female) and we go out to eat I pay for what I order or treat someone as they treat me. No entitlements or expectations from me. Now, if someone suggested a fancy elegant expensive dinner I would not accept to go or I would straight out tell them “Naaah, too much for me but perhaps another time.” Besides, I don’t have that big of an appetite so it would be a waste. Maybe on some special occasion but that’s about it.
You are a feminist so of course you do not understand the feminine desire to be provided for, cherished and protected.
This lady on Okcupid asked me last week do I have a passport? Lol
What is wrong with that question?
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Originally Posted by picardlx
Yes apparently everyone on OLD has visited damn near every country. I want to do some traveling too but some OLD women are extreme with it.....saw one with like dozen selfies from different countries. Kinda intimidating. I'm still trying to hit 10 U.S. states.
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What is wrong with that question?
So now being a well traveled woman is a negative?
No but it may not be the best connection with a guy who doesn’t travel much, not necessarily by his own choice or doesn’t really feel a need to travel.
This lady on Okcupid asked me last week do I have a passport? Lol
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Originally Posted by moneymkt
The question was stupid because we were discussing traveling
You were discussing traveling with a woman and she asked if you had a passport. How is that a stupid question (unless you had already mentioned that you have traveled abroad)?
You were discussing traveling with a woman and she asked if you had a passport. How is that a stupid question (unless you had already mentioned that you have traveled abroad)?
I meant to say we were not discussing traveling so the question was weird because it came out of nowhere
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I'm still trying to hit 10 U.S. states. 
