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Originally Posted by JerZ
And yet you didn't ask her,
"...Hey...you seem distant. Can we talk?"
"How was your week?" is NOT the same. Obviously.
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I agree with this. Right now you are not being open and honest. It CLEARLY bothers you that she is distant and you have not yet once told her about it!
I'm curious, how have your other relationships gone when there was a problem? Do you just gloss over it, and continue with life as usual? Are you afraid of potential conflicts?
OP if you have any hope of salvaging this, you MUST address how you are feeling with this girl, to her directly, talking, NOT OVER TEXT!
I will copy and paste what I wrote earlier:
If a women has issues or is trying to play games, that is very challenging because these women will fear "looking too eager" and will say no they can't go out with you when they really can and have no other plans. They will deliberately try to sound short in the phone conversation to try to "not appear desperate". These women are too complicated in my opinion to date.
How do you know which type of girl she is? Ask her out, leave her alone and wait till the date. If she can't go out with you and is not playing games she will apologize that she can't make it and suggest another day and be content waiting until that day comes even if you don't call her. Confident women without insecurity issues don't start freaking out if they don't hear from the guy in between dates.
If she is playing games, she won't suggest another day, and then she will start freaking out that by trying to not appear desperate she sent you an "I'm not interested sign" and start calling and chasing after you. Or if she insecure she will start freaking out if she doesn't hear from you in between dates and start chasing you.
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I don't think she was playing games. She answered and returned your calls. She's agreed to go out with you every time except this once.
Now all the sudden she is busy. I think she genuinely lost interest. WHAT HAPPENED? You MUST ask her if you hope of having a real relationship, where you can talk about things that bother you.
This is why the silent treatment doesn't work. It makes things awkward and no one knows where they stand.
I do think your relationship with her is over. A weekend is coming up and I find it hard to believe she has plans every day and every night this weekend and can't make time for you. If she were out of town she would have said so. Or if she were truly busy she would have said sorry, how about next weekend. She is either confused and doesn't want to address it, or doesn't want to see you again and doesn't have the courage to tell you.
I personally think you should learn from this and move on. But if you do want to give it one more shot, pray to God she answers the phone the next time you call and ask her if everything is ok and tell you miss the way your interactions were with her before, and you would love to see her again. Ask her if she is feeling she wants to keep seeing you, and potentially you two only date each other.